to object to a bloke from my past telling people in the present he ****d me?

[mypastcatchingup]

this all sound a bit ridiculous but here goes.

About 15 years ago, in my single days.....
One particular guy whom I will call R was someone I snogged a few times. He once walked me home and we had a ridiculous and unsatisfactory fumble.I stopped any kind of contact when I discovered he was living with someone.Thw whole thing was a big nothing and I had completely forgotten he existed

He recently reappeared locally and told a male friend of mine I was an ex ( you can tell from the thread title this is not the vocabulary he used)

AIBU to be really pissed off by this?

No he sounds like a real creep.

Did you shag him, or not? Sorry, can't quite work out.

not unreasonable to be pissed but I wouldn't get too het up about it - after all if he is boasting about stuff that happened 15 years ago he sounds like he is hardly the stuff of love legends and prob is obviously a loser and therefore anyone sensible will probably nod whilst thinking to themselves what a loser

He sounds like a creep to me too.

I would set them straight and avoid avoid avoid.

He should be a gentleman and have a bit more respect for the fact you now have a child and (I'm assuming) a partner.

Whether you shagged him or not is irrelevant.

Yanbu. What a creep!

What an arse. I wouldn't worry about it if it was 15 years ago.
He's a bit pathetic to talk like that to be honest, and if all this happened 15 years ago, then we can assume he is actually older than 15 now?

Well, he is no gentleman is he?

Does anyone you know now care?

The dickhead.

if you're ever asked, pretend to find it hard to remember him. Laugh it off, pointing out you've not slept with so many people you can't remember them all.

Doesn't everybody tell people about their exes? I do.

If I was in a bar with my friend and a guy walked in that I had so much as danced with, I'd be compelled to tell her!

If you've shagged somebody how is it disrespectful to mention it - it's not as if he said it to her DH (which obviously would be very disrespectful).

In my teen years, an ex claimed he'd shagged me. (He hadn't, and if he had he should have shut up about it snce I was 15 at the time ) I put it about that if he had, I hadn't noticed. Worth trying?

Point out that Russell Brand lost a job and a lot of money over similar behvaiour

they didn't though. he's made it up.

I dunno, I think it's a bit rude if it's out of the blue - mostly because it's irrelevant. If somebody hot walks into a bar and I mention I used to have a thing with them, the person I'm with might feel obliged not to approach them etc. Depends what kind of friends you have really though, whether they'd care whether YOU personally would normally share that kind of information with them.

I'd be annoyed. BTW, was the point of that rambling answer

Russell Brand... what?

Did this guy phone the OP's grandad and say repeatedly that he'd **ed his granddaughter and then broadcast it on national radio???

There's no comparison there, surely?

Grrr, that's out of order!!!

This sort of thing happened to me quite a few years ago. A mutual friend told one of my friends that he had had some kind of fling with me. I was 18 at the time and he was about 35 - I hadn't looked twice at him, let alone had any kind of physical contact with him.

In a strange way I guess it's flattering but it's not really, just ignore him he's being a knob.

Morris- of course there is no comparison.

ever heard of exaggeration for effect?

Sheesh

Have to say that YANBU, but you could look at it from a different perspective he obviously thinks that spouting such crap gives him kudos amongst the guys, which suggests that you are most definitely a yummy mummy

possibly not what you wanted to hear but thought I might lighten things a little

Least Russell brand was telling the truth

You are all brilliant.

I am not really sure why this bothers me so much.
possibly because I really like the person he told and don't want them to think badly of me.Not that I am ashamed of my sexual history but i don't expect it to be discuseed 15 years later.

The exact turn of phrase was he claimed to have had " a couple of quickies" with me.
Bleargh!

Morris no I didn't shag him but I could have and it would still piss me off if he mentioned it years later.

Mishardbroom I am glad you pointed out whether I shagged him is irrelevant . And yes I do indeed now have several children and a husband!

oldlady I like your idea

Doris thanks for the positive spin

why do women ( not all, but def. me) feel the need to put the record straight if our past sex lives have been misrepresented?

And Morris i am very discreet about my past!

Well how about if it's mentioned again you say you'd almost forgotten all about it because it was rubbish and he's got a tiny willy if that gets back to him I doubt he'll mention it again

YANBU. Someone did this at my wedding!