about what is, in fairness, just a silly joke...

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Last night I was reading bedtime stories, and we started talking about the word 'no'. My younger son made the sign for it (they've been learning signs at nursery), and then said, 'it's your favourite word!' 'Who told you it was my favourite word?' I asked. 'XX [nursery worker. Not his keyworker. Not my favourite nursery worker by a considerable margin] did,' replied ds2. 'Every time we make that sign, she says it's mummy's favourite word.'

Now. My son is very literal (I think it comes with the job description for a nearly-four-year-old), and offered to clarify the situation with XX once I'd pointed out to him that, in fact, 'no' is not 'my favourite word'.

So AIBU to be just a bit put out by this? I mean, I don't get my knickers in a twist over 'the mummies on the bus go chatter chatter chatter', which is equally inaccurate and stereotypical. But this has upset me (I'm not traumatised, btw, just mildly bothered).

And if I'm NBU to be a bit put out, would I be U to mention my put-out-ness to Someone?

It may be relevant to mention that my sons attend a day-care nursery, four days a week, 8.30am to 6pm. I have the requisite amount of maternal guilt and defensiveness regarding this fact :-).

yabu, its just a joke,

YANBU

I would feel the same as you, for sure. (LOL about wheels on the bus - Mummies on the bus read the Financial Times!!)

Not sure I would mention it though, but it really would annoy me.

Personally I'd just laugh it off. Tell me DC my favourite word was tickle and then have a mad tickle session on the bed. Or subsitute tickle for kisses, love, or whatever floats your boat.
I really don;t think it's something you need to bring up with anyone.

YABU and a bit silly (sorry), it was meant as a joke to all mummies by the sound of things, not as a personal attack on you. If you complain they will think you are bonkers.

just tell him what your favourite word actually is. and remember that what you say is more important to your kids than any old nonsense that has come out of the nursery workers mouths. i'm sure the nursery worker says no is all mothers favourite word, and it's unlikely to be a criticism of you personally.

let it go.

i sense that you are a little bit tense, and not surprisingly as you work so hard. any chance of a break soon?

yabu ,its a joke like saying to the children "your favourite food is chocolate".I think if you mention it to the staff you will look a bit silly.

Yanbu to be 'mildly bothered'. Any more bothered than that might be U. She just sounds a bit of a twit + your son's going to meet plenty of them!

To clarify, TeeBee, I didn't think it was a personal attack on me! I wouldn't be looking for advice if it had been (I'd be too busy making an appointment to see the manager).

Thomcat; I told him it was 'cuddles'. Someone else suggested 'ligitation', but I think they were joking, too.

prettybutterfly; that's rather what I suspected. This is their first Twit In Authority (such a milestone...)

litigation

YANBU - I'd be perplexed by this, but then it's not a very good joke is it? Snidey jokes are only allowed if they're actually funny.
It's not appropriate to teach small children this kind of narkey rubbish imho. 10 year olds maybe, but not at 3 fgs!

Perhaps your DS being very literal will 'correct' the nursery worker the next time she says it and do the job for you

I don't think you are being entirely unreasonable here. I would find it slightly off that the staff down there would describe the children's mother in any way as negative.
It is never a good idea to talk negatively about the child's mother or father in front of or to the child/ren.

Blimey! Maybe she was trying to injet some humour into the teaching (okay, it aint hilarious) but I think maybe we are getting a bit worked up over nothing. Find something else to worry about.

Aye Aye Capitano TeeBee

Think YAB a bit U

I would take that as meaning 'you kids are so adorably mischievous that mummy has to say no to you a lot', not that mummy is some kind of killjoy who doesn't allow the kids to do anything.

Fair enough be mildly bothered, YANBU, but to mention it... YABU.

isn't 'no' every parent's favourite word? I think you are taking something personally that was never directed at you, iyswim.

No!

Oh. Hang on...

... though in a similar vein, I note that M&S kitchen toys for kids (pretend kettles, toasters etc) have 'just like mummy's' written on them, which I do think is totally off and indeed insulting to dads.

i read further on and discover that, in fact, you had not taken it personally.

think yabu really, but I know where you are coming from

YABU - but you know that really. It is those demons of guilt and defensiveness coming out - I find squirting them with wine helps. (and giving extra cuddles to DS, obviously)

More, now why can't my DH be as receptive to my demands??

Friend of Elves; you speak wisely.