about what is, in fairness, just a silly joke...

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Last night I was reading bedtime stories, and we started talking about the word 'no'. My younger son made the sign for it (they've been learning signs at nursery), and then said, 'it's your favourite word!' 'Who told you it was my favourite word?' I asked. 'XX [nursery worker. Not his keyworker. Not my favourite nursery worker by a considerable margin] did,' replied ds2. 'Every time we make that sign, she says it's mummy's favourite word.'

Now. My son is very literal (I think it comes with the job description for a nearly-four-year-old), and offered to clarify the situation with XX once I'd pointed out to him that, in fact, 'no' is not 'my favourite word'.

So AIBU to be just a bit put out by this? I mean, I don't get my knickers in a twist over 'the mummies on the bus go chatter chatter chatter', which is equally inaccurate and stereotypical. But this has upset me (I'm not traumatised, btw, just mildly bothered).

And if I'm NBU to be a bit put out, would I be U to mention my put-out-ness to Someone?

It may be relevant to mention that my sons attend a day-care nursery, four days a week, 8.30am to 6pm. I have the requisite amount of maternal guilt and defensiveness regarding this fact :-).

I can see why you'd be marginally narked off about it, but I wouldn't mention it to them - it really doesn't seem worth bothering too much about. Btw, I'm totally with you on the 'chatter, chatter, chatter' thing, makes my blood boil every time I hear it.. Haven't as much as muttered a word to anyone on a bus for high on 20 years.

To the OP, I think I would laugh but still have this nagging feeling that it is not that funny. YANBU and my Dcs never were in daycare nursery so not a sentiment of guilt just, as always, the feeling that whatever we do, as mother it never seems to be good enough for some people. Not guilt but I just realised quite a bit of bitterness.

'Tis oft said of me...

YABU
Why can't mumsnetter ever get a perspective on things. I would be the first to say my favorite word is no and laugh about it, and why do people get their knickers in a twist about insignificant things like "mothers going chatter, chatter"
Agree with Friendofelves it says more about your insecurities than anything else.

If the teacher had said my favourite things were wine and cake then I would be pissed off - however true it might be. That would reflect the insecurity I have about my fat arse and alcoholism.

Sounds as if your ds is going to sort it out for you in any case . I'd be a little irritated too. And then I would see how often I did say "no". Probably quite a lot! No was dd's first and most used word for quite a while though...

Um. I actually said that I don't get my knickers in a twist about 'chatter, chatter, chatter'. I used those exact words, in fact. My knickers remain perfectly in place, no matter how many verses of Wheels on the Bus are sung.

And if I had perspective on this, then I wouldn't be posting in AIBU, would I? Because I'd know the answer. The responses are helping me achieve perspective. Crazy, eh?

Mad!

I must admit that I do get my knickers in a twist about the mummies on the bus, and when I do the singing at toddler group the mummies on the bus have an intelligent conversation whilst caring for their children and doing every other job going. doesnt quite fit but hey ho.

Don't the fathers on the bus do something lame too, like snore, snore, snore? Anyone know?

In my song the fathers on the bus say I am reading my paper, stop that noise, i am reading my paper.

yanbu. I'd be annoyed.

Sock monster, in which case we can ignore the pathetic song with impunity!

But the insidious nursery helper needs watching to make sure she keeps within approved limits of twittishness. Nearly had a vowel-malfuncton there.

I believe the daddies are rarely to be found on the bus. They've usually taken the BMW haven't they?

me thinky this is all a tizzy over nowt.refain from comment,unless you want to be loon mum

who harbours conspiracy and grumbles all the time

no biggie.honestly

YANBU at all.

I know exactly where you are coming from.

It's annoying and irksome that this idiot nursery worker has to dream up something negative and apply it to the mums.

It's stupid, twee and a waste of breath. Plus, what other rubbish is she feeding their brains with.

Is it really too much to ask for her to apply some common sense and realise there's a BILLION better things to say than Mummy's favourite word is No.

It's not even funny.

Rant rant!

Do you feel better Littleladyloulou

The nursery worker may well BE a mum. THe ones at dd's nursery are. This would not bother me at all. It's a flippant comment, a joke, not malicious or nasty. Most of us do say 'no' an awful lot!
I think some of vitriol here is baffling and inappropriate.

no sense of overstating case or exaggeration LLLL.you are coming aross barking at the moon loon.

lets see "idiot nursery worker has to dream up something negative and apply it to the mums"

are you bitty paranoid about staff to wonder
"stupid, twee and a waste of breath.
Plus, what other rubbish is she feeding their brains with...."

hey if that bothered take precious dumpling out of that nursery

or

have "idiot nursery worker" shot.immediately

sheesh,why so worked up

I thought it was a spectacular post Litlleladyloulou

No. Knocking back a large glass of rose would make me feel better!

but as I am pg, I will have to settle for tea. FGS. Or Shloer. FGS.

I have had a WEEK of various computer-says-no, if-they-had-an-original-thought-it'd-be-dangerous, durr-brains and I just can't stand it any more!!

Britain's Got Stupidity will be the next big talent show for the talentless out there! There's plenty of contestants.

....

Oh bog off ScottishMummy!

Obviously it's TONGUE-IN-CHEEK!!

doh!a well considered and reflective response.watch your BP with all yer bellyaching and gurning

Good point, SM!

I shall add a next time, for clarity.

Now where did I put that bottle of rose...