To be slightly annoyed with comments from mil

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Pils came round today to see how ds1 is as he isn't well. She then said that in exactly 3 weeks time its her birthday and she wants to spend it with her grandkids. She said us two can tag along as an unnecessary apendage if we want but basicly she want to spend it with her grandsons but we were welcome to tag along if we want! She wanted to spend it at x (local garden centre) where theres sleigh rides christmas lights father christmas etc and she wants to go out for lunch there too. All very nice and I will be more than happy to come along. Its just the repeated comments (I've given the edited abridged version) about how she was spending it with her grandkids we can tag along too etc etc that irritated me. Am I being too sensitive/clouded by other "issues" or am Ii right to have found it abit irritating? Dc are aged 1 and 3 by the way!

Take dc along to mils for her birthday. Knock on the door, say "here are your gc". Then run away for the day with your dh.

You and dh have a lovely childfree, pils free day and no guilt attached as mil has said she wants to spend the day with gc.

Me thinks she wants to take them to see Father Christmas and bask in the glory of taking them all to herself, the birthday do is a ruse if you ask me.

Sorry oversensitive -but that's cos I am effin' jealous!

But the first time kids see father christmas, they usually yell the place down.

Let her get on with it.

I would be overjoyed if MIL offered to take my children out for the day. Accept with tears of gratitude in your eyes, woman! And go and do some lovely Christmas shopping or something.

dump the kids at pils

then go home and shag each other senseless

fab, child-free day

whats not to love?

ignore her lunatic power-games (I suspect that is what they are)

dump the kids at pils

then go home and shag each other senseless

fab, child-free day

whats not to love?

ignore her lunatic power-games (I suspect that is what they are)

She does sound a bit annoying but it would surely be much worse if she wasn't interested in them. I wish that either my parents or in-laws were as keen to take sole charge of my two. You should let her take them off your hands, go Christmas shopping on your own and count your blessings.

oo sorry, double post

How much viagra have you had today, anyfucker?

I always wanted to do things with my nephews (in my pre-child days) and it was never the same if my sister came as she was always telling them off. These mothers eh? I agree with the other posters, let the PIL enjoy themselves with the kids and go off for a nice lunch or something.

I agree with others-leave them to it and have a lovely day on your own.

Agree with everyone else - drop them off and run, in fact ask if she would like to spend the evening with them too

yes, i agree that you should go off and enjoy the day to yourself...but i would also want to be with them if they are meeting santa etc - just to see the look on their faces. so... my advice is, take them to do the whole santa thing BEFORE they go with mil. they get to go twice. you dont miss out. and you have a day off.

{blush} cheshirekitty, have you noticed I am a bit sex-obsessed at the moment?

I am mid-cycle, blame it on 'ormones

My mil does the whole 'I'm not interested in you anymore now I have my grandsons' thing too and the repeated comments about this do grate a bit. So YANBU about feeling a bit irritated about the comments.

But wholeheartedly agree with others about grabbing the opportunity with both hands to have some lovely childfree time!

Unfortunately I can't take the offer and she knows it. MIL has had a number of unexplained falls and is very reluctant to get it checked out says she is totally concinced there is nothing wrong with her. The whole family is very concerned about her. I am very worried about her picking up the dcs especially ds2 as I have seen her fall and she goes with no warning. However she is taking no notice of my concerns at all. She picks him from his playpen, the floor when perfectly happly playing. highchair, pushchair, my fil you name it.Always when I'm out of room making teas or even going loo or thinking he's in highchair/pushchair etc not going anywhere etc iyswim. Dh has talked to her and she talks through my ds as in grandma wouldn't hurt you would she darling grandmas not stupid is she. Also insists she would never ever carry him over stairs but she did at ds1 3rd birthday party. She disapeared over a bridge with ds2 in her arms without so much as a bynoleave to me after she had whipped him out of his pushchair. I'd seen the empty pushchair and panicked till my mum pointed to what she'd done where she was taking him. So she knows that we will come with the dcs. Been a few months since last fall btw (as far as I know) but even so would still go. Aibu?

Is this the first time she will get the grandkids on their own? Maybe that's why she's making a point of it. She could also just be excited about the prospect!!!

In that situation I would sit her down and explicitly tell her that you forbid her from picking up your ds's unless you or someone else are in the room with her until she gets investigated for her unexplained falls. If she wants to ignore potentially serious health concerns that is her lookout but she is putting your ds's at risk by stiking her head in the sand yet wanting this privelage (sorry total mental block about spelling this tonight - know thats wrong ) with her grandsons.

Might have been worth putting this fairly crucial bit of info in the op though

Sorry alicet dh was iching to go on the laptop too and ds2 started crying so it got a bit hurried! DH unfortunately is abit inconsistant in this. Sometimes he ignores her picking him up at other times he takes ds2 off her and comments about her falls. She then makes these comments through ds2.

Fair enough! I hate it when rl gets in the way of mn!!!

Think you both have to be consistent with this otherwise can't really blame her for no taking you both seriously. WOuld dh be prepared to sit his mum down and explain both of your concerns?

Fair enough! I hate it when rl gets in the way of mn!!!

Think you both have to be consistent with this otherwise can't really blame her for no taking you both seriously. WOuld dh be prepared to sit his mum down and explain both of your concerns?

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