To think my child shouldn't come back from a playdate covered in mud and pooh?

[valleysprincess]

I have name changed for this as it's awkward. I dropped my dd and ds off at a friends house today for a playdate along with some with Bob the Builder DVD's and games for them to play. It would seem that rather than stick the agreed schedule my friend involved them in 'games' consisting of shovelling horse pooh and washing some of the filthiest dogs you can imagine. According to ds she also had made a list of things for them to find in the garden which included worms and bees and dd presented me with her lunchbox containing bugs when I arrived! Obviously that lunchbox is now in the bin. Both children were covered in mud and something which smells like horse/cow manure and I have spent the last hour trying to untangle dd's hair.

Considering the amount of germs which lie in manure and on dogs AIBU to be annoyed?

I'm allergic to prissy mothers.

and trolls

Unless they were in their best party clothes, YABU.

Sounds like they had good fun and lots of fresh air. If it was the other way around and the other parent felt miffed her kids had been plonked in front of DVD's instead of having some imaginative play she might have a point!

Your daughter presented you proudly with her luchbox when you arrived - sounds like she'd like more of this outdoor, mucky fun?

TBH it sounds like they had lots of fun - fresh air, discovery, exercise and did all the sorts of things kids love.
Try not to be too angry - although it sounds like it's not the kind of afternoon you had envisaged.
I think YABABU really. It was very nice of the mum involved to spend so much fun time with the kids.

can you really find bees at this time of the year?!

I think you'd struggle to find a bee in the UK in November.

What has an allergy to bees got to do with anything? There aren't any bees around at this time of year. You don't keep him indoors watching DVDs all the time in case a bee stings him, do you?

Dirt is good. It's a lot healthier to be outside shovelling manure and collecting bugs than sitting indoors spaced out in front of Bob the bloody Builder.

Chill. You are not doing your son any favours.

I feel a bit that you rejected your DD's offering too - no matter how icky it was - she gave it to you to show you how happy she was and you dissed her totally by chucking it in the bin

We encourage the children to get muddy at the school where I teach... we have a lovely lavn, a den, a veg patch, a minibeast garden and the "dell" a hidden area surrounded by trees with a cave.

Mud is good, germs are fine as long as children wash afterwards,

It sounds like a fabulous afternoon for your dcs; lots of impulsive play, fun and exploring... I bet they want to go back and have already asked when they can.

why let them go outisde the door at all really.

surely if the thought of outdoor lay horrifies you so much why not just keep them locked up and glued to the tv 24/7?

i'm happy for your poor kids that they had such a fun day as tbh the rest of their lives sounds prettty miserable and boring.

how much trouble is it to change their clothes when they come in? germs are good, they booost immunity.

No bees around obv! Sounds like a good ploy to keep em busy, I like her style!

Did you feel just a teeny bit because they had a fab time without you? That might explain while you are so pissed of about it?

Who is this lovely mum? I want her to have my kids for a play date!

Sounds a fantastic playdate-if others get to know I expect she will be the most popular mum in the school!

yabu
shit happens
a bath will solve it all

Damn it, I pay for my dcs to have this experience at their nursery.

and you get it for free!

Maybe she should of fed them up with maccy d's and then stuck them in front of the tv?

How dare children be allowed out in the fresh air and play,maybe you should call in SS

Surely not real?

And how on earth did your dd's hair get so tangly in one afternoon?

OP- It worries me that you can't tell the difference between cow and horse manure.

If it was cow shit,you would know all about it

Clothes are washable, children are washable, heck, even lunchboxes are washable - you are being way too precious, imo. Just be glad your dd had such a good time!

I bet your dc had the best time ever.

sounds like they had a fab time. Clothes and lunch boxes in the wash and kids in bath, a bit of soap, good as new
Would you really rather them sit in front of DVD?? And horse shit, well what do u think children that ride do?? They certainly dont die!

Coming in from mucking out stables can I just add possibly TMI? Horse poo is lumpy, and can be picked up using a shavings fork, cow flop is "looser" and runs between the tines of a shavings fork.

Neither is anything other than a miniscule challenge to a healthy immune system, unless your DC have been eating it.

HTH

you poor little princess, your kids had a ball so yes yabvu. Go and have a antibac bath to calm down!!