To have sent out Christening invites that are ^me^ inviting people and not exH and me????

[guyFAwkesreQuiem]

Because I've just been verbally attacked by DS2's Godmother over the fact that exH wasn't included on the invite - because "it's a family thing for DS3".

She made me feel like I was deliberately "excluding" him and not acknowledging him as their dad "because they need a father".

ExH and I are now very amicable and there's never been any question of me organising the Christening who was invited/when it was/godparents etc etc. He's going to be there, and when the parents and godparents stand up to say the vows is going to do so too (but at the opposite end of the Godparents to me - again something we agreed on without any real debate over it) But now I feel like total shit.

So should the invite have been "G & N" invite you - or just "G" invites you???

Sorry, I have only just had chance to catch up on this thread!

Well done for asking him, I am glad you have got it resolved FAQ. Like I said before you have enough on without sweating the small stuff!

The God parent sould like hell though, I would definitly consider some of the direct options given here. Being given the very great priviledge of being a Godparent does not give you the right to behave like that! I am very impressed that you keep your cool!

I hope it all goes off well on the day! Enjoy it!

I'd have done the samething. Why pretned that he's hosting for forms sake when he obviously isn't?

NCBirdy - I had to ask him it was driving me mad wondering if I had somehow inadvertently excluded him from it. We're actually getting on ok now, (when he came over last Sunday afternoon to pick something up he even stayed for a coffeee!!) and I would have hate to have thought that our hardwork at patching things up between us so that we can at least be civil to each other without doing it through gritted teeth had been undone (if that makes sense).

Maybe you can get exH to have a word with the godmother to the effect that he agrees with what you did and, given the current situation (i.e. recentish split) you could do without people poking their noses in where it doesn't belong .

It does and with all the effort you have put in it would be awful if that had happened! I like Freckle's idea of getting ex to tell GP to butt out!