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Children on facebook? Mumsnet jury?

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 15:57

I find it a bit annoying really, a friend recently sent me a people you may know for her daughter, and I see facebook as an adult site really. Also am I BU to get annoyed at people describing there DP as 'baby' all the time? Or am I just a miserable old cow who should lighten up?

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BBeingpatient · 17/11/2008 16:01

depends on age, i suppose its no diff to having an email address. IMO calling your DP baby is preferablt to calling him daddy, so yeah lighten up a tad!

BetteNoire · 17/11/2008 16:05

I thought you had to be 14?

I wouldn't be happy with my children seeing lots of the stuff that ends up all over FB.

FB are disinterested in, and incapable of, regulating their own site though, so I suppose it's a free-for-all really.

BetteNoire · 17/11/2008 16:05

I thought you had to be 14?

I wouldn't be happy with my children seeing lots of the stuff that ends up all over FB.

FB are disinterested in, and incapable of, regulating their own site though, so I suppose it's a free-for-all really.

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 16:05

12? Is diff from having email address, because now she gets to see all my pics and what I have written on walls and stuff. I feel I have to behave myself now..

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BetteNoire · 17/11/2008 16:05

sorry - don't know what happened there.

ChairmumMiaow · 17/11/2008 16:06

My niece was on facebook - was friends with family, her mum knows her password etc. She joined up to talk to a friend that recently moved to canada.

She is too young (11) to officially be on facebook, but we were all happy with this as she is only ever on the internet when other people are in the room (at her house, her granny's and ours).

Her father (my brother, currently divorcing his wife and not being a good parent at all) apparently reported her to facebook as her account has been closed.

So anyway, I think it completely depends on how the child is supervised with the internet.

MrsBadger · 17/11/2008 16:06

you have to be 13

if she is fibbing about her age then she shoul ddef be taken of

put her on you r'limited access' or whatever it is list

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 16:06

She has lied about dob, that says she's 20 so there must be a lower age limit..

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MrsBadger · 17/11/2008 16:06

(and it's UNinterested

disinterested is something else entirely)

hanaflower · 17/11/2008 16:07

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 16:07

What does limited access mean you can see? anyone know?

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UnfortunatelyMe · 17/11/2008 16:08

Remove her from your friends list. My dds both have facebook accounts. The games there are good.

MrsBadger · 17/11/2008 16:08

depends on your settings - it's on FB

Nbg · 17/11/2008 16:10

Infants on FB?

ginnny · 17/11/2008 16:17

Personally I don't think FB is a place for kids. Some of the applications on there are really inappropriate for them.
As for calling your DP baby, I do that all the time and really can't see what's wrong with it.

wehaveallbeenthere · 17/11/2008 16:18

I have friends on FB and you have to be invited to be able to talk back and forth. She has her children on there and several adult friends. I guess if you invite unscrupulous people into your life (whether facebook or email or whatever) then be prepared for unscrupulous surprises.
I don't see anything wrong with it myself. Everyone that I know that has babies or children puts them on and they are just adorable. The babies of course don't send very many messages though.
I suppose if you don't want to invite them then you don't have to or you can always just delete them.

PurplePillow · 17/11/2008 16:22

My dd(8) is desperate for her own fb and bebo account but I don't agree with her having one at this age.

If she wants to play a game on it, then I let her use my account (with me beside her) to play the games.

Smithagain · 17/11/2008 16:22

I don't accept anyone under about 25 as a friend. There are a lot of teenagers and students on there that I know through church youth work and they keep popping up on "people you may know". But I really, really don't want to eavesdrop on them as they stretch their wings at uni!

Equally, I want to be free to discuss grown up stuff with people of my own generation.

BetteNoire · 17/11/2008 16:23

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 16:25

Smith that is how I feel, I accepted her because I didn't want to upset her, now she's commenting on my pictures and asking me how I am on my wall and stuff. I have her on limited profile but I can't work out what that allows her to see. I'm tempted to delete her but don't want to upset her..

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wabbit · 17/11/2008 16:32

another vote for 'disinterested' pedant alert

FB - my dd's on there and many of her friends - though all above board as all over 14 - I think younger would be both invasive for parents and expose the younger kids to some really naff and sordid crap

dd only uses it for keeping in touch with family and share photo's with ex school friends.

wabbit · 17/11/2008 16:33

dd's on here too so nothing to keep secret

ByTheSea · 17/11/2008 16:37

If you go to privacy settings and then profile, then you can type her name in and that allows you to see your FB the way she would see it. So, you can play around with controls a bit.

My DD2-9 loves to play the games, but I let her play on my account as long as I'm in the room. I also sometimes let her use the chat utility to talk to relatives online.

ByTheSea · 17/11/2008 16:37

Meant DD1

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wonderstuff · 17/11/2008 16:44

Thank you BTS, I will try to have a look

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