to expect that a walking 13mth old might want to get out of the buggy at some point while on a play trail.....

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OK I have got my DB and SIL down for the weekend with their dd1 who is 13mths and suggested we go to a place with a play park and play trail. It may be wet and all the shoes dd1 has is a pair of black patent shoes , so I said that I could lend her a pair of wellies if she wished. SIL said no she would just keep dd in the buggy all the way round . Am I being unreasonable in thinking that a walking 13mth old might want to play?

FARAL she was straining at the straps to get out and loves walking, has spent all the time from getting home walking in and out of the living room to kitchen until SIL closed the living room door and penned her in

well...they do sound a little bit cough precious, lol

PS I am a CM so the whole house is childproof

"FARAL she was straining at the straps to get out and loves walking, has spent all the time from getting home walking in and out of the living room to kitchen until SIL closed the living room door and penned her in"

oh yes - that's DS3 (17 months) he strains at his straps to get out - but we've tried the walking without a pushchair out of the house and it just ISN'T happening yet. However, he's also very happy in his pushchair - I put his shoes on and he runs and climbs in - I've given up putting the arm straps on him as he pulls them out straight away so he can move about more (and grab more stuff off supermarket shelves ).

I shut my children out of the kitchen - know too many children that have had accidents, or very near misses to let them freely in and out of the kitchen.

Honestly I think you shoud calm down a little - she's 13 months, if you were takling about a 2yr old I may think differently....

Well it's their baby so they can instill what they like can't they ? No point in having a mother who is very house proud and you taking their baby and rolling it in the mud, recipe for a stressed mother.
Mine weren't that stable on their feet at 13 months, at the end of the day you rolls yours in whatever you want and she can keep hers in a vase if she wants.

As I said my house is child proofed because of minding, so no problem going in the kitchen here. I appreciate that your ds might not have wanted to walk but my neice hasn't even been given a chance to try it. If she had been let out and didn't like it fair comment. Its more that SIL refused to let her try.

Katie they are staying in a hotel due to lack of space at ours so mess makes no iota of difference.
If you read the thread you will see why I feel its unhealthy to keep children in a bubble.

oh it's not that none of them wanted to walk - it's just at 13 months it's usually more effort than it's worth (imo) to try and get them to walk in anything like the way that you want/need them too.

Sorry - but I don't believe any kitchen is totally childproof - there's not a lot you can do with an oven to make it safe......

oh it's not that none of them wanted to walk - it's just at 13 months it's usually more effort than it's worth (imo) to try and get them to walk in anything like the way that you want/need them too.

Sorry - but I don't believe any kitchen is totally childproof - there's not a lot you can do with an oven to make it safe......

Oh well it looks like we won't be going anyway because my friend who has the wellies is away and I forgot! Will have to go to the hard but spongy surface play park where DN will not get too dirty/cold or have an accident due to wearing wellies

But do you not see that if the mother is unhappy, the child will be unhappy, you think it's a bubble she thinks it's perfectly normal because it's all she's ever known.
She will chill out as the baby gets older and maybe she has more children. You have the benefit of experience, give her a chance to learn with her own baby without judging, we were all first time mums once (and I used to get Dh to wash his hands before picking up the baby with the first, with the third she was shoved at him before he'd got his coat off).

If the oven is off and the child can't reach the ignition switches etc then its highly unlikely to create an injury. She could have got very dirty if she tried to climb in though Its on my to do list!

thankfully shoshe rescued me before I could get like that. Although we were never like that with dd1 anyway, as soon as she could walk she was given every practical opportunity. When better than when you have no time pressures?

however...and sorry to be coming back to ys here...but at times he has been all so keen, and we were all so pleased, in a...it's a breakthrough...and as soon as ys got whatever...msajor drama...etc....
am feeling paranoid again, because it sounds like ys as sn and I am in denial...but we have looked into this and after looking at all that was possible to be his problem we haad to realise that he is just a sensitive little boy, bless...

I've only ever used 2 childminders -as one-offs - and both had stairgates across the kitchens so that the children couldn't even get in their unsupervised.

I remember my DS2 aged 13 months, a worktop would have been an invitation to find something to use to climb up and do it.......and he was very inventive (ie those 2 big saucepans in the bottom cupboard would make a perfect step .

Mind you DS3 isn't much better now at 17 months.......I've now had to totally removed my piano stool from the lounge/diner as its too easy to turn up the right way so he can climb on the top of the (quite tall - it's one of thoses big old ones) darned thing!!

I do think you're getting a little OTT about it though - she's 13 months - PLENTY of time for her to get out and about walking. And another thing, maybe (or maybe not ) your SIL is like me - spends a lot of time with their DC in a pushchair so the child needs to get used to it. I personally refuse to attempt to pay my bills at the bank, and do my supermarket shop and get it home with a walking 17 month old.

A happy mother = a happy child isn't that what we're always saying on here ?
When you babysit, roll her in mud or whatever, just make damned sure she's spotless before you send her home

Mine walked at 16mo and 20mo so there's no way they would have been able to at that age! I have NO problem with messy kids AT all but even now at nearly 2.5 dd1 will stay in a buggy through choice even when at a park, even when her big brother is playing. However, I don't often have a buggy for her just the single one for dd2.

And before I get slated for letting 2.5yo in buggy bear in mind that she only started walking 9 months ago and she is about the same size as most 12-18mth olds!

I haven't said that my neice should walk all the time, I just feel that she should walk if she wants to, which she clearly did today and couldn't. She clearly didn't want to get back in the buggy and SIL had a battle We were in no rush to go anywhere except about 50m down the farm. Very PFB IMO. I said that my 2.10yo will not walk all around the playtrail, but would get out to have a look around the play bits iyswim.

Size has nothing to do with walking ability ime. My dd1 is 2.10 but almost a 4yo height and will not walk half as far as my friends dd who is 6wks younger and is wearing clothes my dd wore at 1yo!

"She clearly didn't want to get back in the buggy and SIL had a battle"

as I said not at ALL unusual for a child that age to not want to get back in the buggy!!!Even ones that have had a whole afternoon running around often don't want to get back in!

Well I think you are being very judgy and superior TBH - why is YOUR way the right way, and why be so dismissive and sneering of SIL - she must love you

or teth as far as my mad 20 month old, who would walk climb and do anything at 13 months, but actually started to walk at 10 months and went straight to running

yep! My dd1 is very lazy! Although I was pleased she made a breakthrough round that lake! It has set a future presedence!

ahhh - I see you only have on child (and yes I know you're a childminder so see different children for various length of times) - just wait until number 2 comes along (if you're planning one) they can be startling different from each other in the way they react to certain things

I never had a child that climbed on top of the piano, or climbed on the dining room table on a daily basis until DS3 came along pmsl.

MacDoodle I offered a pair of wellies and was met with what I felt was an unreasonable retort. I was trying to help, thinking of dns shoes getting spoiled. Like I said- is it unreasonable for my DN not to be able to get out and play at 13mths? Would you take your 13mth old to the park on grass and expect them to stay in the pushchair the whole time watching others play? More to the point would they not create hell if they were not allowed to get out? Mine would have screamed blue murder