Was she having a go at me?

[Ripeberry]

Maybe i'm a bit, but i'm suffering with a bad cold and a bit touchy.
But this afternoon the school did a cake sale and it was to try and get some parents to help with a Xmas fair in December.
A form was passed around the school and it must have gone through at least 30 different pairs of hands, including grandparents and one of the parents came over and said "Oh, you're a SAHM you can do this as I'm working!"
With the emphasis on WORKING. Bloody cheek and she had not even put herself down for any of the baking cakes or biscuits jobs, in fact no-one else did out of 50 sets of parents.
So basically its the same old PTA people who have to try and do all the jobs themselves.
I did put myself down for the mince pies but i'm not even going to the fair as i have to go and look after my Mum who is now in hospital.
Would you have been a bit that no-one even cares to help out?
Shall i get my hard hat and some popcorn

P.s the parent in question only works to help pay for her horses.

YANBU. I would be really grumpy at this especially as you are trying to look after your Mum too

I would have told her to piss off actually.

What a bloody liberty. (Said in Katherine Tate granny voice)

What buisness is it of hers how you dispose of your time?

I'd watch out if I were you and grow a thick skin. Make a stand or they'll just get you to do everything. YANBU IMO.

Mind you, as a working mum, I know you have no time for anything! But DH is a SAHD at the mo and I don't expect him to have time to do anything either.

Annoying, but I'd just drop out if it's getting to you. PTAs and Xmas fairs are completely unnecessary unless you find them fun fun fun and want to do them, imo.

YABU - the PTA is voluntary, it's none of your business why she works and if she doesn't want to help then tough. I say no all the time to PTA etc. I work all week, have three kids, a house to care for, a husband working away all week and the last think I want to do is make sodding mince pies! If the PTA people do - then bravo for them. I will try to help buy chucking some of my hard earned cash in their direction and if that isn't good enough for them then they'll just have to get over it!

Question - do they accept purchased biscuits and cakes? If so, why couldn't they have just bought something and given it?

(My DS isn't old enough for school, so don't know the politics!)

ok - just to be clear Ripeberry my last post has very liyyle to do with you but quite a lot to do with MY relationship with the PTA - bit of transferance there I think

That's OK Northern Lurker, it's just that the mum in question does not work to earn money for the familly its just for her "hobby". Anyway enough of her.
As regards the mince pies, i'm no good at baking so i'm buying some and putting them in an ice cream tub, who's to know? .

LittleBella, i would so LOVE to do that Catherine Tate impression, but you never think of these things at the time do you?

I would (and have) say 'no I have no time to do that because I am at work.' I wouldn't say that she could because she's a sahm. Being brutally honest though - I might well think it. Even soI'm much to chicken nice to have a woth/sahm barney in the playground!

I think the minute things which are voluntary start getting to you like this...then it is time to step back and let someone else do it. They either will once they realise things won't happen...or the things don't happen. PTAs always go through wierd, flat periods and then someone else comes along all enthusiastic...
...untill they too become bitter and twisted
I am currently feeling rather sour about the whole thing too ripeberry and will be stepping down soon.

She probably wasn't having a go tbh...she was probably just felt defensive

YABU I work and hate cooking and can't see the point of all these cake sales etc. So I get pissed off with the demands of the PTA. If they want to spend their time doing all that stuff great. Why do they assume the rest of us do to?

It can get quite bullying sometimes, and seeing how OP reacted here I do wonder why she and the PTA bother if they don't enjoy it?

I wish there wasn't this stigma attached to SAHM's! I do work part-time but was a SAHM for quite a few years + people felt they had to comment about it!

I was recently round at a friend's having coffee, (she's a SAHM with 4 children aged between 6 months and 11 years by the way)! Anyway, the doorbell rung + it was her neighbour asking if she'd mind taking over the organising of a magazine circle that had been running for years in their street.

"I thought you'd be the ideal one to ask as you're at home all day, + would probably relish the chance to get involved in something", her neighbour said! Needless to say, my friend responded pretty sharply with "No"! This neighbour had brought round all the paperwork, a stack of magazines + about 20 neighbours' addresses. She was absolutely amazed when my friend refused, some people just have no idea what being a SAHM entails!!

Well, when I was a sahm I got so much more done around the house than I do now (I work part time). So, YAB a little bit U. If you're working from home surely it's easier to fit baking a cake or whatever into your day than if you're out most of the day.

TBH, if I ever get asked I'll buy something from M&S.

Dont mention sodding cake baking. Why oh why do some mums turn it into a competition to produce OTT cakes?, I took in some cakes made with my 2 ( the whole point is to involve the children in baking) and was told they were nice but not up to the sodding special cake table. Oh stay up all night and bake your perfect buns you saddo's I thought!!!some people eh ????

Dont mention sodding cake baking. Why oh why do some mums turn it into a competition to produce OTT cakes?, I took in some cakes made with my 2 ( the whole point is to involve the children in baking) and was told they were nice but not up to the sodding special cake table. Oh stay up all night and bake your perfect buns you saddo's I thought!!!some people eh ????

Actually, thinking about it, I could be a complete lady of leisure and still wouldn't be able to find time to bake!

Ripeberry - bash them lightly with a rolling pin and dust with icing sugar for genuine homemade effect

YANBU to feel a bit slighted, it does sound as if she was a bit rude to you. However, as a working mum, I do sympathise with anyone who doesn't want to spend their time faffing around with cakes for the Christmas fair.
If I make cakes, they are for my family.

I only ever do stuff for the PTA if it's strictly on my own terms. They hate me for it, because they can't even say I don't contribute.