To think that parents should be open to their childrens shortcomings as well as good points?

[lovleygirls]

I have met lots of parents who NEVER say anything even slightly negative about their child. No child is perfect. AIBU to think that parents need to recognise this when dealing with their children's school, so they can work together to sort out problems?

In summary, YANBU

Honestly who are these parents?

I don't know anyone who believes their children are absolutely perfect. Really I don't. Am I unusual, or is it just that my area is extra negative or something?

Oh i know quite a few littlebella!

Littlebella, don't know - only telling it from a teacher's perspective. I don't know what these same parents would have said to their friends/family about their child's behaviour. Maybe they just didn't want to admit it to me!! Some parents get very defensive where teachers are concerned!

I think it depends on who I am talking to - I have one good friend who basically acts as a conduit for all my negative thoughts about my children - we slag our kids off to each other all the time, and then tell each other how lovely the other's ones are! And then some people seem so perfect themselves that I don't want to say anything that might let them think I was really a terrible parent.....

The teachers aren't afraid to put children straight when they do something wrong in my experience, ours call the parents in and tell them, not offer them the opportunity to discuss it.
Obviously I have never been called in, but maybe that's where some teachers go wrong, my MIL wouldn't be giving parents the chance to bleat on about how their kid was perfect.

"Obviously I have never been called in" Actually I have'nt either - I chose to go in. Is it difficult being so perfect?

, yep, it's always the teachers fault!!

Unless I was prepared to be exceptionally rude and just interrupt the parent and totally disagree with them there wasn't much I could do to stop them "bleating on". Some parents just don't want to listen to anything negative about their child no matter how many times you call them in and how many times you tell them what the problem is .

Littlebella,

I do know people who gush about their angels all the time.

sponge

You are a breath of fresh air. I heart you.

I never said for a moment I'm perfect I could give you a list of things I'd change about me and the children, but I choose not to because there are enough people/situations out there more than ready to put them down, I won't add to it.

I'm glad I don't live in a gushing kind of neighbourhood.

Aww shucks lovelygirls, that's v sweet!

Right, off to check on my angel!

my dd is perfect too. except for the nits!

Spongebrain, if you feel your authority is being undermind by either the parents or children, you need to take control of that. I do feel some teachers are such pushovers it's o wonder the children run riot over them.
You should have such a presence that you are able to shut the parents up.

Littlebella

i wish i did'nt. If I hear about how lovley x,y,z is again I might throw a tantrum myself! Or scream "Yes I know you love your children but I love mine as much. I just don't need to broadcast the fact at every opprotunity, now shut the fu*ck up"

Sorry - rant over.

Ah but if parents were a little more honest, teachers wouldn't need to have such a presence as to "shut the parents up"

Good God, don't get me started on nits.

ROFL at Katie!!! Believe me, I was described as many things as a teacher, pushover was not one of them - and trust me, my children never ran riot!

It was not the children I ever had any problem with, it was their parents. But I struggled to get the parents to write lines or stay in for detention, and I couldn't expel them either unfortunately. Shame.

Teachers just don't have that kind of power over parents anymore, and more's the pity!

my ds's are completely, totally and utterly perfect.
It's me who is distinctly under par.

It must be nice on planet perfect child.

Yes it is. My DC's were pretty perfect today. [smug]

Wish we had a proper smug icon. I would use it obnoxiously.

I honestly believe that those parents who think their children are perfect do them a huge disservice.

Their children will not thank them ...and nor will the people around them.

How can we learn to be a part of civilized society if we are never corrected when we are clearly in the wrong?

Plonker

Agree totally. I have just had a cry [boohoo] as I have been questioning wether I should just put on a 'my kids are perfect frot' at all times or maybe not.