School run mums

[rbrand]

who merge into cliquey groups at school are clinging onto each other because they are secretly insecure? Am I unreasonable to think, Why don't they get a life?

yabu TO EVEN BE BOTHERED

yawn
people speak to people they know, it is not neccesarily cliquey. because speaking to your friends whilst you wait for your child means you need to get a life? eh?

am i taking it you are out of the clique?

They are probbaly only chatting to pass the time on till the bell goes or whatever.

did someone offend/ignore you? do you have any friends at school you can talk to?

I couldnt comment, none of them have ever spoken to me so I dont knbow what they are up to either way, they know who I am, sometimes speak, but most of the time they always stayed in their little group. Why whos upset you?

It's called making friends
Whyis it cliquey to know and like people?

Or should I ignore the girl I went to school with for years and now happen to send our lo's to the same school in case it offends someone who wants to stand on their own and not chat to anyone.

No unfortunately in it!Trying to get out of it. WINK, WINK.
Gets bit boring hearing mums slag each other off each day. Perhaps it's just my DC's school.

So a mum who takes her DS or DD to school (and by the way who else is going to take a 5 year old and above to school??) and who meets and chats to other mums in the playground while waiting for door to open, is secretly insecure??!! LOL! Why are they insecure and what makes you think they don't already have a happy, fulfilled life, wonderful sex life, loads of mates, loads of social activities with and without their kids etc etc?

Sounds like someone else round here needs the life!

I'm sorry, I can't make head nor tail of your posts. Can you be clearer as to the problem?

The other mums and dads at my FDD's school are all incredibly supportive of each other. People doing favours for others, true friendships forming, people helping others, people caring, etc etc. Never, ever in 2.5 years have I heard one mum bitch in anyway about anyone other than the odd gripe about the headmistress.

Why did you become their friend?

There's a bit of cliquey stuff at my kids' school, but I just ignore it and pretend to be friends with everyone.

In the clique, they all eat Mr Kiplings all day and have fat bottoms and bad clothes anyway.

Not that I care enough to be nasty about them, you understand, and not that I am reliving my own traumatised teenage schooldays at all.

pre school was bitchy, now they're lovely....

same here TC, i have never encountered this bitchy cliquiness at DCs school, just friendly chit chat

'they all eat Mr Kiplings all day and have fat bottoms and bad clothes anyway'

that sounds like me!!

OK, Posie. Let me clarify. I seem to have got caught in this cliquey little gang at school who seem to gossip and bitch about other mums, which puts me in an awkward situation because I am a very neutral person and don't want to slag other mums off. My DC has to go to this school for the next few years and already some of the mums have had rows.
You guys seem to have got the wrong end of the stick. I don't mean genuine friends. Look up the word CLIQUEY!!

what is the difference between a clique and a group of friends except different perspectives and perceptions

when does a group become a clique?

How did you get caught up in it?
Surely you made a choice to befriend them?

Just start talking to other people. If someone slags someone off to you just say 'sorry, I don't think that's true'

I can't beleive they argue!! WHat on earth is there to row about or am I naive?!!

rbrand, your last post should have been your OP. I would not bother too much about the rows, it comes and go. If you do not get too involved yourself and stay the nice nutral person you are, people will not have any reason to "slag yoou off".

Sorry but you are the one sounding insecure, get out of the clique and leave them to it if it bothers you, or do they force you to be in the clique?

Posie, I have been known to scoff the odd almond slice myself, but only in moments of stress. My bottom could probably be a bit smaller, I confess. But I had to find something to be horrid about because they're not that bad at all really.

It's a small school, Their kids are in the same class as my DC. Can't exactly ignore them when my DC goes to their birthday parties. And I'm not stupid enough to ignore them when my DC has to go to that school for the next few years. I guess i could make an effort with the other mums, but I really can't be bothered, I have plenty of friends outside of school life, as does my DC. Seriously, I can't wait to get away from them half the time. Posie, if your shocked they argue, I'm glad I didn't tell you the full story of what they get up to!