To be annoyed at childminder?

[lilacclaire]

I usually am ousted as being unreasonable, so will take it on the chin if I am.

Childminder gets paid to watch ds for 3 days, she only actually watches him for 1 of those days, I need her to keep the other 2 days open for him though in case of the odd time I need to use her on those days.

On the one day that she does have him, there is no-one else to watch ds, I don't have any other option than to use her that day.

Have just been informed that next week she will not be able to watch him on this day as she is going to her daughters scan.

I presume daughters partner is not going as he cannot get time off work!!

I am at this, as no doubt the daughters gran will be running them up, so she will not be there herself anyway.

So aibu !!

what does your contract say about holidays and how much notice?

tbh a week isnt a lot of time to find alturnitive(sp) childcare but if she was ill you would get maybe a few hours notice - then what would you do?

if i work a bank holiday I charge double

the fact you pay her for 2 days you dont use isnt an issue, you might need them and therefore par her or you would def lose the space

and did youmean the cm daughter said shut up,as in small one ie 3/4or maybe her daughter who neds the scan ie an adult?

Just wanted to add my experience with my childminder.

I think that the relationship between parent and minder has to be a give and take for the best interest of the child.

It does irritate me slightly when my minder gives me a week's notice for things like a hospital appoitnment etc but in the same breath I know that she accomodates me when I sometimes need to muck about my days because of commitments I can't control.

I think a week notice is reasonable.

It would have been better for you if she could have organised alternative care for you - my minder has 2 other childminders that I have met and now know that will cover for her in case of emergency or cases like this.

When she can organise another minder having DS, she will for me and I am always more than happy for her to do this.

At the end of the day, I think our childminders are people too and they too have other commitments or events that happen in their lives. We depend on them so much to take care of our little ones that I think we forget that they also have lives.