to assume the ostrich position when it comes to the DETAIL of child abuse news stories

[bythepowerofgreyskull]

I see the headlines. horrid
but I can't let myself know anything about the detail.. the headlines have told me what I need to know in order that I don't open links/newspaper etc.

Should I be exposing myself to the detailed horror? and if I should what would be gained by me knowing?

I wouldn't. I did look on the bus this morning and ended up in tears on the way to work.

YANBU. I can't process the details of these cases now. It just feels too horrific. I can't even begin to think about it.

I have to turn it off telly or turn page over...

i listened to jeremy vine
terrible.
not too much detail really, however depsite vowing not to read the papers i read the guaridan ok - and then the sun oh no, TMI

I don't know nothing about this case I don't think I want to but I may go and look

don't do it. pingpong.

Slarty it was the Jeremy Vine show that made me wonder if I was being unreasonable - for the first time in ages I switched to radio one because I couldn't listen to it.

I can't read any details since I've had my own children. It makes me feel sick and i can't get it out of my head for days... the poor poor child. Child abuse is about the only crime I would bring back capital punishment for - there is just no excuse for it - if you don't want to look after a child, for goodness sake hand him/her over to social services.

On BBC1 this morning it was (imo) portrayed rather too descriptively. I don't feel that I put my head in the sand. I work in the psychiatric services and see many many difficult cases.

I really can't bear to go into detail of other very tragic cases.

I cannot say if YABU or YANBU, as it is a very personal thing.

Some of the detail in this case is interesting and should be known because it was the same district as victoria climbie and the dpt clearly has not improved, or acted on the enquiry's findings.

As far as the actual abuse goes it's fair enough to not want to know the details. It is very upsetting.

I think that is it Laweaselmys the vague details and general timeline I can cope with - the detail of the things the child experienced is what i can't cope with

hopefully the parents will get their just desserts.

No, yanbu and I recommend to my clients (most of whom are depressed) not to watch the news and to switch off when details of child abuse is being discussed - I think this is a way of people with mental distress looking after themselves and that it is positive and nurturing of themselves to do so.

I can't bear it myself, but I think there is an element of having to say exactly what happened so we aren't in any danger of thinking that it's nothing, and that it's not worth keeping an eye out for a child near you who might be suffering.

You hear the cases where children are taken away from their parents and it's claimed that this is a miscarriage of social justice (just think if your kids were taken away) and then the cases like this - it gives some idea of what the social services are up against. And why slashing taxes is perhaps not such a brill idea if we want decent services.

when i read about these cases..usually on the bbc website, i have an almost physical reaction to them, difficult to explain but i get a nauseating fear and a plummeting feeling in my stomach and than a sort of mad palpitation of the heart. because it is truely unthinkable /unbearable to read and visualise what has happened to these children. its always worse (to me) when it affects a child around the age of your own lo's and i don't understand the thought processes of people who hurt others

No - YANBU.
I work in the media (news) and so am surrounded by papers, tv and radio all day, every day, every minute and hour.
I cried and cried yesterday, when I got home, because the details of it were on a horrid loop in my mind having heard it all bloody day.
Usually, I can switch my mind off even over the most dreadful things, but this really got to me.
You are not missing anything at all. Anyone normal would feel the horror of it without having to be exposed to the details.

Oh I thought that it was just me. I have wept and wept over this case imagine the horror that poor boy was exposed to. I saw the headlines which was enough but put my Metro newspaper back in the pile this morning as I saw that the story was about to be detailed. it's hard enough to stomach that people would abuse a child without knowing exactly how they went about it. ABsolutely sodding horrific.

Oh YANBU.

YANBU, I think it is really difficuly for a lot of people to hear details of particularly horrible cases.

But in a way it is good to get these details out there, instead of just hearing that a child died for some reason, we can actually see how the poor child lived and that makes us (speaking for myself here) so furiously angry that we can do something about it.

Glad it's not just me, I persevered with the news this morning, only to end up sobbing and holding my 2 boys for ages (until they wriggled away) I don't know why I did it to myself, it did no good . I thought I was being odd by not wanting to see or hear what had happened to that poor child.

YANBU

There really is no need for the media to be so descriptive - expecially pre watershed. It somehow 'normalises' it all, and this is just unnecessary.

Newsnight last night had a 3d image of the poor bot complete withi injuries, photos of his blood-stained clothes etc. I was close to a panic attack begging DH to turn it over (he was holding remote). Instead of just pressing channel up or down he started scrolling through the channel to see what was on while Paxo was blathering away in the background. In the end I just snapped at DH "I don't give a fck what you put it in just turn this fcking thing off"

I dont' want to know details either.

I've hidden the In The News thread with the graphic title.

That's a good point, GivePeasAChance. And I think it has been further 'normalised' by the huge number of autobiographies written by people who have survived abusive childhoods.

On the one hand, I think they are clearly very brave and emotionally strong for surviving, and if they can make some money from a book, perhaps that's fair compensation - and their story might help someone else in a similar situation.

But on the other hand, I feel that it would be wrong of me to read these books - it would feel as if I were using their suffering as a form of prurient, voyeuristic entertainment.

I don't want to know details and I don't let my ds hear a lot of the headlines these days. He is 9.

Part of me hates the sensationalism of it all and part of me feels that the level of exposure we are presented with is what is dulling our senses to horrific crimes.

We have got used to hearing about these crimes and that has brought on almost an acceptance of violence.

I don't want to accept it.