To think this woman should stay out of it and leave me alone??

[MrsSnape]

I posted on relationships last week about a young bloke supposedly telling his grandma that he liked me, she told me ... caught me off guard completely and put me on the spot and I may have accidently given the impression that I was pleased about it (when I was actually totally gobsmacked and unsure of what to say).

She finished by saying "is that ok with you?" and I just mumbled "yes ... "

Anyway I can't avoid the bloke and I decided to just deal with it by ignoring the fact that she'd said anything and totally act normal. I saw him tonight and this worked well...all totally normal.

Well, I got home and immediately got a text off his grandma saying he now wants to ask me out for a drink but is too shy to ask me hmm himself then the mobile started ringing ... it was her ... I ignored it and then the house phone started ringing! shock

half an hour later, the phone rang again, waking the kids up.

I feel like I'm being stalked. Why the hell would you carry on like this? He's 21 and yes I know it's young but surely not so young that the grandmother needs to get involved to this bloody level?

It's REALLY stressing me out. I don't know what to say.

It's bloody mental, it really is.

Thing is, I DON'T want to upset him and I know he has a grading on Wednesday (as do I) and we're both nervous about that. If I upset him now, all hell is bound to break loose but this mad woman will just not let it drop.

What can I do?

Tell her to keep her sticky beak out of it and then change your numbers?!

I would text her back asking her not to contact you anymore about this thankyou.

I bet he would be really really embarrassed to know she was behaving like this!!!

Just txt bk sorry really busy preparing for wednesday. will think about ti after that, then let him down gently?

Sorry I didn't see your other thread. Can you do a link ?

Leave things until after Wednesday and have a word with him.

Tell him his grandmother has mentioned that he likes you and that you are flattered but it is not the right time in your life for a relationship. (I presume you are single)

Are you the one who had problems with a nasty bloke at your karate club? Is your karate club a complete nutters' magnet or something? Because this woman's behaviour is quite abnormal. THe next time she rings, say to her something like 'I know you're trying to help but please stop pressurising me, I don;t like it,' then put the phone down. And do nothing. If she starts again after that, say 'Please leave me alone.I do not want to date anyone at the moment.'

Well, mad woman sent a voice mail last night saying he wants to go out for a drink but I could meet him at her house for the first time if I'd prefer...???!! what the hell is she on? I feel like a 12 year old being set up on a first date.

She's also phoned me twice today. It's not just me is it? this IS odd and completely irrational behaviour isn't it??

Are you sure he is aware of what his Gran is doing????

SGB has it nailed I think!

Well I was working with him all night last night (well, from 6pm until 8pm) but close contact throughout and he never even mentioned it. He did seem a bit sheepish and a bit friendlier than normal but you'd still think he'd at least mention it!?

Maybe Gran started it and has told him after the event?

I would guess (assuming he seems like a nice normal guy) that he has no idea at allwhat his Gran is up to.

You say she has texted you so I would just text her back requesting that she leaves you alone. It most certainly is not normal behaviour and could even be construed to be harrassment

I would not be getting involved with this guy as his family are clearly nutters! God knows how many times she'd call if yoiu were actually in a relationship with the poor boy!

I know FlirtyThirty, to be honest I wasn't interested to start with simply because of his age but her persistant phoning and texting has made it an absolute certainty that I won't get involved. It beggers belief.

I have to go and face her at school now (she picks her other grandkids up!) so I'll be in for questioning:

"I've been trying to phone you!"
"didn't you get my hundreds of texts?"
"so, are you going to go for a drink with him then?"

The most annoying bit about it is that she does all this in front of my kids. One of whom is 9 and works out immediately what we're on about and it plays on his mind

Have you actually seen the pair of them together? At the same time? D'ya know where I'm going with this?

I would just tell her when she gives you this third degree that you are just not interested thankyou very much and that you do not want to discuss it with her anymore

you must tell her that you are not interested, and put an end to it

if she is that persistent i wouldnt worry about hurting her feelings

rhubarb you have me all intrigued - where are you going with that?

You can also block the number from your house phone. I had to do this once for similar reasons, when they call they get a recorded message saying "This number is not accpting calls from you" in a rather snippy tone.

HTH

i'm wondering, as he hasn't mentioned it to you,perhaps she is trying to fix you both up without actually telling him iyswim? Maybe she wants to get you to say yes, then she will tell him she has fixed him up on a date?
All seems very immature. Wouldn't suprise me if she has told him YOU fancy HIM.
Disentangle yourself from this asap!

It wouldn't suprise me at all Chickydee. I think she has told our karate instructor that I fancy him (the grandson, not the instructor!) as he was making slightly sarcky comments on friday night and I assume they were directed at me (the lad wasn't there).

sigh

What a wierd carry on.

Just tell the woman to leave you alone, that you do not want to date her grandson and you don't want to discuss it any further. IN fact, say to her, You have put me right off, I feel stalked. She has passed the point of deserving politeness or tact (OK, so 'Fuck off you mad cow' is perhaps a bit excessive). And block her phone numbers if you can.

Well I text her yesterday afternoon to say I wasn't ready for relationship yet and then managed to avoid her all day and so I got home from the school run.... later on last night she phoned twice (house phone and mobile both twice) and then sent a voice mail starting with a sarcy "is something wrong with your phoneS or what? aaaannnyyywaay....."

She then went on to say that I could meet him at her house if I'm shy?!?! what an absolute pyscho. I have to work with him tonight too, she's making this very cringeworthy and awkward

I've never known anything like it. I'm too cowardly to just tell her to piss off I think I should speak to him directly tonight but I know he's been trying to avoid discussing it with me at all. Am I mean to force this "grown up way of doing things" on him when he clearly isn't ready for it?

I feel really bloody annoyed that I've been pushed into this mess, as if I don't have enough to worry about.