To think this woman should stay out of it and leave me alone??

[MrsSnape]

I posted on relationships last week about a young bloke supposedly telling his grandma that he liked me, she told me ... caught me off guard completely and put me on the spot and I may have accidently given the impression that I was pleased about it (when I was actually totally gobsmacked and unsure of what to say).

She finished by saying "is that ok with you?" and I just mumbled "yes ... "

Anyway I can't avoid the bloke and I decided to just deal with it by ignoring the fact that she'd said anything and totally act normal. I saw him tonight and this worked well...all totally normal.

Well, I got home and immediately got a text off his grandma saying he now wants to ask me out for a drink but is too shy to ask me hmm himself then the mobile started ringing ... it was her ... I ignored it and then the house phone started ringing! shock

half an hour later, the phone rang again, waking the kids up.

I feel like I'm being stalked. Why the hell would you carry on like this? He's 21 and yes I know it's young but surely not so young that the grandmother needs to get involved to this bloody level?

It's REALLY stressing me out. I don't know what to say.

It's bloody mental, it really is.

Thing is, I DON'T want to upset him and I know he has a grading on Wednesday (as do I) and we're both nervous about that. If I upset him now, all hell is bound to break loose but this mad woman will just not let it drop.

What can I do?

The fact she wants you to meet him at her house suggests strongly to me that he doesn't know he's supposed to be going on a date with you. She's probably asked him around to change a light bulb or something.

Just tell him, in a nice way, what his gran is up to and ask him to ask her to stop as both he and you are quite capable of finding your own dates if you were looking.

It all sounds like a plot line in a minor sit com at the moment.

trouble is, he lives next door to her! with his sister I believe.

I don't know, it's all a bit odd.

I'd have a joke with him about it. Sounds like he doesn't know anything about it and chances are he'd be mortified. Then leave it to him to sort out his grandmother. "I think your grandmother is trying to match us up! Isn't it embarrassing! Perhaps we'd better let her down gently, don't want her thinking she can go and buy a new hat any time soon! hahaha"

What a total nutter.

They are the same person!

Look, you've got to take the bull (or cow) by the horns here. She is upsetting you and has unsettled your dcs. She could even be up for a charge of harrassment.

If she will not listen, then take him to one side and tell him to tell her to back off.

They are the same person!

Look, you've got to take the bull (or cow) by the horns here. She is upsetting you and has unsettled your dcs. She could even be up for a charge of harrassment.

If she will not listen, then take him to one side and tell him to tell her to back off.

It's my doppleganger.

my god she's bloody mental.
IMAGINE having to have her round xmas day !!!!!

If you can't tell her to piss off then tell him to tell granny to stop it. Not into arranged dates these days you know. Arrange them ourselves in this day and age.

i still wonder if he is actually aware of what she is doing.

if she wont listen then you have to talk to him about it, or failing that, as you know where he lives, put a note through his door asking him to contact you, and tell him by phone

i dont think i would worry about being polite by now, if it were me!

MrsSnape, I wonder if you are someone with a little bit of a problem with boundaries ie you find it harder than some people to say 'Look, just fuck off and leave me alone' to intrusive loons. Because you seem to have had similar problems with pushy people before and were too worried about hurting their feelings to protect your own wellbeing.

Have you a strongminded friend who can phone this woman on your behalf and say 'If you don't leave MrsSnape alone you're looking at a harassment charge. Do you understand that?'
Bollocks to her hurt feelings. People like her need a good metaphorical smack in the mouth to make them stop ie the threat of legal action and, if that doesn;t work, going through with legal action. Being 'nice' allows loons to escalate their behaviour and become a danger to others.

Hope to god you sorted this out last night. SGB, will you be my friend?