to not want my dodgy family from being my 'friend' on Facebook? Can't they have a vetting policy or something? (I need to let this out. Sorry)

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First it was cousins I've not seen for years (as in 20 years!), then my brothers, then an aunt, then dodgy chav cousins who send messages lke tis evry hur and now my bloody mother. I didn't want to upset her, she can get very demanding and I moved away from home partly to get away from her. I feel really pissed off that she's on it and is now able to read what I've been doing and my messages from friends etc. She was never nice to me when I was a child, I have alot of memories of her shouting at me and hitting me across the face.

I am really pissed off at the moment, please talk some sense into me. I just want to SCREAM!!!

Title should be AIBU to not want my dodgy family to be my 'friend' on Facebook. See, I'm so pissed I can't write.

yabu
its the nature of facebook. whilst you can put some privacy options on it, by its very nature, there is very very little privacy.
just dont post anything on there that you dont want seen by everyone and their cat.

and this is exactly why I am not on Facebook...

Can you just not add them? or delete them? sorry not much help.

Err, can't you just ignore their request to be a friend? You can remove them too....

You are NBU though, just because you are family does not mean you have to get on with them or be like them!

You can block them in such a way that they will see no trace of you on fb-I did it to some stalker bloke

You can accept people as friends but limit the amount of access they get to your profile. Make a friends group called 'dodgy family' and stick them all in there. Tehy don't know that they don't have full access.

She's phoned me 6 times since last night because I have not replied to her friendship request!

She can farkin phone me so doesn't need to do this. I keep telling her but the penny isn't dropping!

I have friends on there I've not seen for a couple of years as they all left Uni and moved. It was a great way to keep in touch.

She'd be so offended if I deleted her. I don't put alot of things on there but it's like a sacred space without family. Or it was.

They should vet!

Ohh, I like that idea squeaky. How do you do that?

Rumour has it the cousins used to be ladies of the night.

I might not block them, containing them is a fab idea. Preferably with a muzzle and taser gun to make them behave.

just ignore the friends request and if they mention it just say "oh i don't really use it anymore"

that's what i do...

if you have your privacy settings set high then they can't see anything on your profile without you accepting them as a friend so won't see that you're "active" iykwim.

If you go into your security settings, you can block people, so even if they search for you, they won't see you even exist on facebook.

You can set it so they can only see your limited profile and you choose what info they can see and what they can't,

how do you do that ewe?

if you block them Op they won't be able to see you. As long as you block everyone who is likley to talk to them about it you should become invisible. You could then just tell them that you deleted your account!

Use your privacy settings,

I've blocked them from seeing my status upates and wall .

Thanks all. I would have just given up and stopped using it if it wasn't for you. I look forward to many years of keeping in touch with friends.

thankyou all.

so you can block what one particular friend sees then? or do you have to block all of your friends seeing it?

I've just blocked my family (I am a wicked child). You can choose who see's what by going to the privacy settings (I didn't know this before). I went through them all one by one and selected who saw what and who I didn't want to see IYSWIM.

so you could have friends a, b, and c seeing everything and friends d, e and f only seeing some parts?

Yes.

Fab isn't it!

My mum/brothers/dodgy cousins can't see my status update at all, if I go out/away now I know that my house is safe and I won't have my mum phoning and asking me how my evening out/date went.

That is great! Can you tell me how to do it? I have found how to do my privacy settings for general use but Icant see how to set it for individuals! I do have a specific reason for wanting to know - I need to speak to someone but I don't want them to see my usual page if I can help it!

I am pleased you got yours sorted out, I know what you mean about family - mine set up a group with details of me in it, photos etc without me knowing! Apparently it has been public for ages

Click on settings at the top, then on privacy settings. It will take you on to your account. Go to privacy and click on manage. Then go to profile information ad click on that. Then you can change what you want. You have about 4 options so you can choose whether only friends see your info or you can customise it so only specific people can see it.

You can send private emails aswell at the top of the welcome screen. No one can see these.

It's in the inbox at the top.

I'm off to bed. I hope you get it sorted.