to leave my child in the car with a travel monitor.

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The car sends my 16week old LO to sleep, am I being unreasonable to want to buy a travel monitor so when I get home and he is fast asleep in his carseat I can leave the monitor with him and go into the house to get things done rather than wake him up?

yanbu to think about but actually doing it seems a bit mental

Why is it mental?

I just brought my 8 month old in from the car where e'd been asleep for 30 minutes. The car door and front door were open (he was snuggled in coat and blanket) and I was sitting watching through the window. We live in a quiet cul d sac and have a private drive so it felt pretty safe to me

Can't see how it's different from letting them play in the garden while you watch them.

They play with huge wads of cash so that if someone is thinking of stealing them, they might chose to steal the money instead.

You can just hear the average career criminal thinking "Hmmm, shall I take the wads of unmarked notes, or the small children covered in mud and snot", Bubbaluv (although I'm sure your children are actually pristine).

If my children were involved eben the money would be covered in mud and snot.

sounds a sensible idea to me

i leave my charges in the car if asleep,but park by playroom and can see the car (MB FINE WITH IT - she also does it)

car is also alarmed so if any movement or door was attemped to be open (from outside - ie a strnager trying to steal them) then the alarm would go off

I remember friends of mine doing this when they visited with their son. I held the door open waiting for them to bring him in, but they said "ah he's asleep so we always leave him in the car"

Thing is, our lounge is at the back of the house and the drive is at the front so we couldnt see him without getting up.

I was getting all anxious but they were so calm, talking about this and that, whilst in my head i was seeing a crazy bloke twirling his moustache with those old silent films running in the background! I kept seeing the baby, then the caption "ah ha ha! look a baby for me to steal"

I think that scarred me for life and i didnt leave my kids in the car. Luckily for me, the earth could have exploded and they would still be out for the count while i got them undressed, put them in their pj's, got them to do a wee! and put them in bed,

Why on earth would you want to leave your child alone in the car...
If i saw a child/baby on its own in a car i would be straight on the phone to the police...

My friend does this all the time.
I wouldn't personally, but you do your own "risk assessment" and see where that takes you.
I have sat int eh car with ds asleep in it. Must say it is a great chance for a rest. Keep a book handy if you fancy this.

Wickedwitch81 - in my case because my children are horrible if they don't have a nap when they need one, or worse still, are disturbed half-way through a nap. They are both nigh on impossible to move without waking. I imagine that if you rang the police to say that a baby was sleeping in a car on a private driveway they would tell you to p**s off. They have criminals to catch FFS.

If I am driving round purposely with a view to getting them to go to sleep, I often drive down to the beach and read/sleep/watch the sea while they have a nap. Lovely sometimes. At other times this isn't convenient so I come home and tidy the kitchen whilst watching my sleeping child from the kitchen window.

Absoulutely fine. Carry on. Never do anything that risks waking a sleeping baby.

I'm talking about a car not being a private driveway - why would i be walking a private driveway surely that would mean i am trespassing??? My dd loves going to sleep in the car, i understand that but what i cant understand is leaving them in there by themselves that is what i cant understand. Would you leave your child alone in the house??

think we had this discussion elsewhere on MN about being the same difference from leaving child asleep in car on private driveway,but watched from living room/playroom/kitchen etcor asleep in pram in garden or asleep in bedroom

i work in a big house,i would leave child asleep in their bedroom and go into garden - does this make me bad?

If i saw a child/baby on its own in a car i would be straight on the phone to the police...

i would wait a few mins and agree with you and then call police - but the OP wasnt leaving her child on a street - she left on her drive

And how delighted would the police be when they discovered a sleeping baby in a parked car being watched by its mother from the window?

Exactly what harm is going to come to a child asleep in a car?

Seeker. I totally agree. What is wrong with all these nosy parkers who say they are going to call the police if they see a child in a car?

I used to have a bay window over the drive, once ds was asleep moving was a killer to a couple of hours peaceful housework. As long as you are permanently, and I mean PERMANTENTLY in touch to ensure offspring are ok it is fine imo.

No more than 2/3 mins at a time out of sight.

It is not ideal but it does mean you don't have to wake immediately.

Go for it within reason.

Oh yes - of course it's fine to leave a child unattended in a car - unless you become a statistic on the RoSPA website...

Since 2000, RoSPA has collected press reports of 13 fatal accidents in which a child was killed while in and around a car, but not in a car crash. Five of these deaths occurred when children were left unattended in vehicles ? two deaths were due to an electric window, and two deaths were due to children playing with matches left in the vehicle. There were 8 fatalities on or around driveways, 6 of which occurred when a vehicle was reversing. The most terrible thing about these accidents is that an adult member of the child?s family was usually driving the vehicle. In one case a child managed to start the car, which then reversed over a second child. Most of the children were toddlers aged between 1 and 2 years old. There have also been several cases of a car being stolen while, unknown to the thief, a child was still inside.

Fortplus and how many children were killed sleeping in their beds/cots? YOu are being ridiculous.