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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To complain about this girl?

34 replies

honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 10:31

I came out of the doctors yesterday and as i was turning to go on the path a bike crashed into my buggy, it was lucky i was holding on to the buggy tightly as we ended up facing the other way and the girl on the bike still couldn't stop for another 6 feet.

It was 5 o'clock so it was dark and the stupid cow had no lights and was going so bloody fast dd2(16 months) started screaming and the girl didnt even say sorry or ask how dd was.

I am so bloody angry, she was on her paper round so today i am going to complain to the shop i know they probably won't care or do anything but hopefully it will make her think twice about riding that fast on the path.

Dd has a large bruise on her leg and told me it sore this morning.

So AIBU to tell the shop?

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compo · 04/11/2008 10:32

how old is the girl?

compo · 04/11/2008 10:32

I wouldn't complain about her tbh I would mention to the shop that it isn't safe doing a paper round in the dark on a bike with no lights though

honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 10:34

she looked about 14-15

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honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 10:36

I'm just glad dd1 stayed at home because she would of hit her aswell.

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SammyK · 04/11/2008 10:39

YANBU,

this happened to ds at the same age, my SIL had him and felt really shaken up by it, totally turned buggy over and onto bike!

I would go in and make the point more about lights, it's just as dangerous for her, and she is still a child don't forget. Are you sure papergirl was from this shop though?? Make sure before you go in.

solidgoldbrass · 04/11/2008 10:40

I think telling the shop is not unreasonable. It is of course possible that the girl was riding fast because she knew she had no lights and wanted to get home before it got too dark (paper rounds do not pay much and she perhaps can't afford a bike light). It is the shop's job to check, I think, that their paper-round staff are not putting themselves or others at risk like this/

nailpolish · 04/11/2008 10:42

i wouldnt "complain"
but advise the shop that it is dangerous for he and pedestrians
maybe her parents refuse to buy her some lights, maybe its not her fault
she should have stopped, yes, but sheis 14 and you dont alway sknow what the right thing is to do at that age

honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 10:44

I'm pretty sure i know the shop she does it for, i'm going to go in anyway.

It's better than doing nothing and it's better than doing what i was going to do which was push her off her bike

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honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 10:46

nailpolish ofcourse it was her fault she chose to ride that fast on a path where people walk.

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beanieb · 04/11/2008 10:52

Yes you should. As a teenager I had a paper round and cycled on the pavement sometimes until I crashed into an elderly man coming out of his house.

As an adult (Well pretty much since then) I have been quite militant in my attitude towards cycling and I believe that people should use the road not the pavement.

Actually - the llights thing worried me more. The shop really shouldn't send out kids without lights, not to mention the parents!

I think any parent who gets their child a bike but failes to get them lights is an idiot.

giddly · 04/11/2008 11:00

I certainly think you should complain (assuming you're sure you know where she works). If she's old enough to be employed she's old enough to act responsibly. A girl was recently killed after being hit by a bike - her age doesn't make it any safer for pedestrians.
And if she can't afford / parents won't buy bike lights she can walk or not do the job.

nailpolish · 04/11/2008 11:05

she is only 14

beanieb · 04/11/2008 11:06

what does only 14 matter? her parents should get her light.

rolledhedgehog · 04/11/2008 11:08

Yes you should complain. I hate anyone other than my little children riding on the pavements.

nailpolish · 04/11/2008 11:08

what i mean is, maybe she wants to get lights but her parents wont buy them
i remember when i was 14 and had a paper round
you get grief for not doing it quick enough
you worry about taking too long
you dont think about safety properly at that age
she should have stopped but she was maybe worried about the scary woman complaining and losing her job

nailpolish · 04/11/2008 11:09

and im being serious
i think you should go to the shop and tell them about it, the girl should be aware of this but she should get another chance

beanieb · 04/11/2008 11:10

you use the money you earn to buy lights! BINGO!

nailpolish · 04/11/2008 11:11

its not as simple as that is it

honeybehappy · 04/11/2008 11:11

lights wouldn't really have made a difference in this situation though it was the fact that she was riding so fast on the path and obviously not paying attention.

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giddly · 04/11/2008 11:12

Well is she's not thinking about safety, someone should point it out.
I don't buy this "only 14" stuff. I think by that age they need to start taking some responsibility for themselves. A few generations ago they'd be out of education and working full time - not saying that's right, obviously, but don't see the point of infantilising teens either (old git emoticon).

citronella · 04/11/2008 11:16

At 14 you are old enough to know that riding a bike fast on the pavement in the dark can be dangerous. You are also old enough to know to apologise.
If parents allow their child to do a paper round they are also responsible for making sure that child can do it as safely as possible.
YANBU

MorningTownRide · 04/11/2008 11:19

YA sooo NBU - It is illegal to ride a bike on the footway.

beanieb · 04/11/2008 11:25

"its not as simple as that is it " why not?

2shoeshissbangwhoosh · 04/11/2008 11:28

I would have a word with the owner of the shop. in the hope that he would speak to the girl. I wouldn't complain, just rise it as a concern for the safety of the paper boys/girls.

14/15 are not that clued up on safety. although she must have been to ride on the pavement rather than the road.

cali · 04/11/2008 11:29

YANBU, she shouldn't have been on her bike without lights but more importantly, she she not have been riding her bike on the pavement.

It is against the law to do so but children under the age of 16 can not be prosecuted for cycling on pavements.

I nearly hit a paperboy a few weeks ago, was at a busy junction in Edinburgh, with another car on my passenger side, our set of traffic lights turned to green and we both pulled away. At the same time, this boy decided to cycle across the pedestrian crossing in front of our cars. He had no helmet on, was listening to his ipod but he was so lucky that our lights had just turned green and we were both able to stop.

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