To think she should have at least offered to replace our toilet seat when she broke it?

[AmIWhatAndWhy]

I know I probably am.

We bought a wooden toilet seat and step with a child insert last week having wanted one for ages, we had to budget to afford it.

On saturday we had friends for dinner and they asked if they could bring a friend, we have met her a couple of times but don't really know her. She was hammered when they arrived and drank a lot here, then for some unexplained reason decided to stand on the toilet seat and look out of the window at fireworks. She was jumping and cracked the whole thing. She didn't even apologise. Just found it hilarious.

If she broke it through normal use then I would say YABU, BUT she was arsing around and broke it. She needs to replace it.

How rude though, going to a strangers gaff, getting even more pished and then breaking their stuff

TBH, if I was the mate who brought the stranger then I'd have offered to pay for it on her behalf. I'd be v

YANBU - she was probably too drunk. Don't invite her again. It's even worse when it happens and the person responsible is sober. These things happen.

They were extremely embarrassed about it. I barely know her and she mainly lives in America so no doubt she felt no duty,

I am grinning at the thought of it happening when sober though, then of course I wouldn't mind. I've done something similar , I pulled a towel rail down in teenage boyfriends parents very lovely bathroom. I remember sitting on the floor blushing for ages dreading going to tell them.

Oh dear, how embarrassing for her!! She should of course pay for it. I agree, that if it was normal use, then it might be a different matter, but she was pratting around.

What can I do about it though?

I think probably a trip to argos for a cheapo one until next month. It's silly isn't it but the DC (2 & 3 this month) are just grasping usingthe big toilet and it was going well with the 'new seat' we made a song and dance about.

Yanbu How rude

YANBU..It probably was very funny..ha ha ha..you all had a good laugh about it.But you are still left with a broken item that you had to save up for to buy in the first place..wether it was funny or not she should still replace it.
DH's friend broke our stair gate when he came round for dinner once.He was too drunk to open it properly so he forced it and broke the lock part.He offered to replace it straight away.S'only right..

Oh dear, you got the wrong end of the stick entirely. What I meant was as she lives in the us neither I nor my friends who brought her see her very much.

MadamDeathstare wrong thread?

YANBU - I've got two of those seats, adn they're fantastic(and not cheep), so I would be peed off if I had to fork out for a new one.

I think though, you have paid the price for having a drunken friend of a friend over.

Could you get a message to her asking her if they cost less in the US, and if so could she bring you a replacement over next time she comes - hint, hint!?

I might use my brass neck and try and take it back
esp if its so new

if that doesnt work I would ask her for the money

I have known a couple of drunken people at dinner parties break toilet seats and not offer to pay for them.

Maybe I should get some new friends?

Madam Deathstare I don't think the op was having a go at Americans.

I assume she was referring to this

By AmIWhatAndWhy on Mon 03-Nov-08 17:52:17
They were extremely embarrassed about it. I barely know her and she mainly lives in America so no doubt she felt no duty

Don't think I would have been able to bite my tongue in that situation (have a DC who is potty training and would like one of those seats!).

Even if I was one of your friends who brought her, I'd feel humiliated and offer to pay for what she broke.

I might phone my friends and drop it into conversation, maybe mention again how new it was and we can't afford a replacement.

Is that rude? Plus will they then call her and ask her about it. I should just forget about it I guess.

If it were me I would phone your friends. Its not your fault she broke it, and perhaps if you say what you have said here, and you do sound infinitely reasonable then as she was their friend, perhaps they will do the decent thing and cough up.

Some people are like that though about belongings. I used to have a friend who broke and lost several things of mine when drunk, and if it were me I would have rushed out to replace them, or at least given some money, she hardly noticed and indeed seemed to think it was funny.

If she will not replace it then the next in line to cough up is the friend who brought a drunk to your house.

If I broke something at a friends house I would offer to replace it, it is the done thing.

I do not think you would be rude to ring and ask for it to be replaced. Oh and YANBU

She broke it will acting the goat, she should pay. Failing that, the friend who brought her there when she wans't invited should at least chip in - maybe get the money off her?
I'd ask about it. It sounds like quite an embarrassing situation and your friend might not know what to say.

I thought I broke the toilet seat at my ex's house, years ago. I was sitting on the loo and it just fell off! I was mortified and apologetic and he strung me along for ages before he admitted that he'd broken it the day before, fighting with his housemate.

YANBU

hope she was mortified - though prob not if pissed

maybe you and your friend can go halfs on the seat - though tech the pissed fat amercian broke it, she should pay

and i say fat as i have stood on my seat and not broken it