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To feel a bit fed up and want to rant!!!!

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KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 21:50

Need to vent and better to do it here then in real life....

Do you ever want to just stand in the middle of Tesco and bloody well scream!!! If you see a little overweight woman doing so in the next few days it will be me.

Why I hear you ask (ok you're probably not asking but I will tell you any how)

I love my family to bits and they are great people for the most part but....

My mother is unwell, she has been unwell for the past 28 years mostly with her nerves and I could regal you with tales to make your hair turn white, oh the joyful trips to the hospitals when she had convinced herself and us that she was having a heart attack/ stroke/ brain bleed...(AKA known as a panic attack) but now she really is poorly, she is a diabetic, Dr gave her pills but she would not take them, so it got worse, she smokes 40 a day has a rotten diet and thinks chocolate is a breakfast food. So she ends up in hospital and now looks like she will need an op to unclog the fuzzy blood tubes and has been given insulin (So I have had my insulin I can eat cadburys roese now)!!
Since coming out of hospital she has been staying with me and I do not mind looking after her, but today she was "too Ill" to go to the Dr so now has no strips for her blood glucose test kit, she is not really eating enough to keep her blood sugar under control and is still eating f*&%ing sweets. The nurse has been in to dress her foot and she takes most of the dressing off before the woman has started her car, I found loads of pills in her dressing gown pocket that she hid in hospital as she did not want to take them!!!!! Mum is not old or demented (just stupid) I feel like I am running up the down escalator!

And then we have my sister (who is a grown woman) lives with Mum and tells me everyday how much she has to put up with and do, and how I don't do for mum what she does, sis wont stay in a house on her own so has also been staying with me, she is the most kind hearted person in the would but by god is she lazy, It is the small stuff that is driving me up the wall, never washes up, never picks up a towel, leaves stuff all over the place, can't turn a light off or a tap, makes a drink and leaves it so not only wastefull but more washing up. Just to add to the fun not only is her boyfriend coming to stay this weekend (comes to stay a lot nice bloke) but she has told his best mate he can come too (I am not Dr Who this is a house NOT the tardis) although last Christmas she surpassed herself and invited boyfriends whole family for the weekend!!!

I then have 2 children, one with slight SN who wound up in hospital with an appendicitis 2 weeks ago, so I was running between his ward and my mothers ward.
Half term has been a non starter as mum is ill and DS1 has been recovering so we have gone 2 the cinema and that was it!

DS2 is not happy with me as I have to go away for 3 weeks in a few weeks time, I will be a long way from home (8 hour flight) and he is not happy at all (he is only 8)
My sister is not happy I am going as this will most likely coincide with my mums op ( a good friend of mine is coming to look after mum if this is the case) but I have still been yelled at over this and I think sis missed her vocation as a priest as she can make you feel sooo guilty!

The house resembles a cross between down town Basra and a jumble sale, I clean one room go to another and by the time I go back to the first room again it is knee deep in shite

So I now have a pain in my chest and after 4 days of this (I decided if it was a heart attack I would be dead by now) I wonder to the Drs and she tells me it is most likely stress and I need to wait for it I need to relax!!!!!!

So now my lovely mumsnetters if you have got this far, thank you, I am off to bed as hopefully I will get a bit of sleep before it all starts again tomorrow.

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KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 21:51

Have name changed for this by the way.

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ohnoherewego · 31/10/2008 22:08

Hope you get a good night's rest at least. You should sleep the sleep of a saint!

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:09

I don't feel very saint like right now

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Sazisi · 31/10/2008 22:13

of course yanbu; you've been under unbelievable stress. And unfortunately it's the nature of life that just when you can take no more and could really do with people around you being supportive, they round on you and add to the crap.
I think you should go and scream the aisle down in tescos

LittleMissNorty · 31/10/2008 22:13

You poor thing....one thing springs to mind....why do you have to get someone else to come and look after your mum after an op when you're away.....why can't your sister do it?

Hope you get a good nights sleep....sounds like 3 weeks away will do you good

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:16

My sister will be starting a new job on Monday so getting time off will be had.
My friend is lovely and will take good care of mum. DH will be looking after the kids,and I know I will come back to thee weeks of housework

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KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:16

hard

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LittleMissNorty · 31/10/2008 22:18

enjoy the time away from them all and worry about the housework when you get back....they'll all manage....and hopefully appreciate how much you do for them.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:20

The 3 weeks I am away I am helping a relative recover from surgery. (She is good fun though and I am looking forward to girly chats and midnight feasts)

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LittleMissNorty · 31/10/2008 22:27

You sound like the sort of person who is very good to everyone else around you but could do with some "me" time.

Stress is a horrible thing....

mabanana · 31/10/2008 22:30

jeez, tell your sis her boyf can't stay. It's not like she doesn't have a house to shag him in! You are too nice - seriously, much too nice.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:32

The boyfriend is ok, its the boyfriends best mate coming too that has had me dragging the fold up bed out and rearranging the sleeping.

Oh and they wont be here till mid night as they have been to a "gig" first

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KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:35

Just to add to the fun DSs are having a party tomorrow (jelly anyone) and I have to go get a birthday gift for someone who has invited DS2 to a party on Sunday.

I am not a nice person really and I do get snappy and cross with people and I don't mean to but sometimes it is all too much

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chapeloffearstickchick · 31/10/2008 22:36

I prescribe wine and lots of early nights with thick glossy mags.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:38

Wine... I remember wine, Sadly taken pain killers so no wine for me , Also a diabetic so not chocolate

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KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:41

Another thing Sis will open a bottle of wine have a glass and leave the rest to go "off" or take glasses of red wine in the the bedroom, do you know how long it takes to scrub red wine out of the carpet!!!! I do!

And tissues I DO NOT WANT TO PICK UP OTHER PEOPLES USED TISSUES FROM ALL OVER THE HOUSE

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Acinonyx · 31/10/2008 22:42

How old is your sister - sounds like a teenager? How long will they all be staying with you?

I nursed my mum and she was not at all cooperative. In the end you can only do so much.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:42

Deep breath Deep breath

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Acinonyx · 31/10/2008 22:43

Why don't you ask her to scrub the carpet? Are you a bit inclined to martyrdom?

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:43

Sister is 32 5 years younger then me

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Acinonyx · 31/10/2008 22:44

That's unbelievable.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:44

martyrdom? Not really, She heads off home and then I find all the wine and tissues!!
I have told her time and time again but I might as well talk to the wall

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Acinonyx · 31/10/2008 22:47

Well I hope they're not staying much longer - I would go mad. She does sound wierd. How can a 32 yr-old not stay in a house alone?

BananaSkin · 31/10/2008 22:48

Surely your sister, her boyfriend and friend could stay at the house they share with your Mother? It sounds horrendous.

KeepInMyImagination · 31/10/2008 22:49

She was attacked a few years ago, so I do understand why she does not like it.
She is the same at home though, messy.
She was watching me change duvet covers today and said "oh so that's how you do it" "I never get it right" !! 32 and can't get a cover on a duvet

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