to expect a little help?

[kayzisexpecting]

I went shopping today. I have to catch the bus as I haven't learnt to drive yet. Trip there was fine, shopping was fine.

Waiting for the bus home there were quite a few people waiting and the bus was half an hour late. When I got on the wheelchair and buggy bit was full with suitcases so I had nowhere to put DS and the buggy. So I had to cram all my shopping into 1 bag, get DS out of his buggy, put him on the floor, stop him from trying to go up the stairs and fold his buggy and put it on top of the suitcases. I'll add here that I'm 34 weeks pregnant tomorrow. Everyone behind me getting on the bus was tutting.

So we went and sat down, then about 5 minutes later an elderly man with a stick got on the bus. No one moved for him but a lady had a go at me and said I should move and let him sit down. The man refused to let me move. The woman who had a go at me couldn't move because of all her shopping. So he stood up for about 20 minutes until someone got off.

Then when we got to my stop DS had fallen asleep and for some reason he is like a dead weight when he is asleep.
So I struggled to hold him, my shopping, handbag and both of our coats while getting the pushchair off. I heard someone say "If she doesn't hurry up we'll be even later" This really pissed me off and in a hormonal rage, through floods of tears I shouted "No wonder people say this country is going to pot, when people can't get off their fat arses to help a struggling pregnant lady"

I feel kinda ashamed I let them get to me and that I said "arses" in front of DS who at 19 months is picking up words very quickly.

I'm really sorry I am ranting but I needed to get it off my chest.

Poor you - and good on you for saying something. Can't believe no-one gave up their seat for an old man with a stick (and I don't mean you should have either).

Makes me realise how lucky I've been - met lots of people eager to help/hold one of my ds when we travel by bus. Miserable unhelpful bus drivers are part of life unfortunately. Saying that one folded my buggy up the other day and stowed it for me - I was so shocked I almost forgot to thank him.

Ask! ASK LOUDLY!! I do give up my seat on the tube for pregnant women, doddery looking old people (don't want to cause offence though) and those with crutches.

However, as I usually have my nose in a book or a paper, I don't always see people in need. Therefore, ASK!!!!

i was going to post an 'aibu, to retake my driving test give up my eco credentials and buy a second car to take me and dc everywhere?' thread the other day when i had a tough time, i have a baby and a toddler and its a pita on public transport sometimes. So it does just get worse, it was actually easier when i was pg, sorry

yanbu-and well done tou for sticking up for yourself.i hope they feel ashamed.

luckily we dont have a lot of public transport here and i dont drive so i just sit and sulk at home or go and moan to the animals on the moorsbut takes away stress os rude people on buses.

YANBU.