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To think that having twins is overrated?

71 replies

inabadmood · 28/10/2008 17:13

Everyone seems to think that having twins is a blessing. Not in our experience. All they have done is totally upset the household, caused chaos, dont care about anyone but themselves.

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shabster · 19/01/2009 10:25

Eloquent post Trips.....not often I have a cry but you got me this morning. xxx

chipmonkey · 19/01/2009 10:31

I don't think there is any need for some of you to be so horrible to the OP! She is certainly not wishing one of her twins away, she was obviously just having a very bad day, felt swamped and needed some support. Which is what MN is about, surely! Don't have twins but have 4 boys and I love them dearly but there are days when I am driven to distraction and like to vent without being judged!

shabster · 19/01/2009 10:36

I dont think anyone is being horrible. Just pointing out some of the sad facts of life. I also have had four sons and would give my own life to have my twins both here. I also appreciate how difficult some days can be - the days when you are exhausted and cant take anymore. It is a very emotional topic and the OP's words saddend me.

shabster · 19/01/2009 10:38

Just read back through the thread. The OP in her first two posts said her twins were 'tedious and annoying' and 'she only ever wanted one.'

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 19/01/2009 10:42

Do you know what?

I think that the OP was having a bad day last October and probably doesn't want this thread opened up again.

Let's leave it shall we?

shabster · 19/01/2009 10:45

No probs x

frumpygrumpy · 19/01/2009 11:12

Shabs, I don't think for a minute your words upset the OP. MN is about sharing our knowledge and showing all sides of the coin. You did just that.

FWIW, I have had (regular) moments when I wished I had only had one child at a time, with a decent gap between, but they are moments that pass. If this moment didn't pass then the OP needs to look closely and find ways of coping. Weekends can be our most demanding times......the whole family in the house at the one time. Maybe some time out swimming with one at a time while DH takes the other two somewhere......

Anyway, since its old, this is more like a case study and since those words make me feel OLD

chipmonkey · 19/01/2009 16:13

Shabs, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to upset you! There was just a tone in some of the posts which read "We can cope so why can't you?" and I felt the OP does love her twins but just finds them hard work some days.
Now, I really will stop bumping this!

shabster · 19/01/2009 18:02

You didnt - takes loads more than that to upset someone with skin as thick as a rhinos

HoratiosMummy · 15/12/2009 14:48

I am expecting twins next year - don't know what flavour yet... feeling a bit wobbly now! Praying for two girls...

Abubu · 15/12/2009 15:53

Don't scare me.
Mine are coming up to 2.5.....

Mishy1234 · 15/12/2009 15:53

I'm not sure about twins being overrated, but I do see how having 2 would throw the household into a spin.

I'm sure you're not wishing one away, but just having a hard, knackering time atm and looking for some sympathy. Rightly so and you have bucket loads from me.

I don't have twins btw, but just one 22 month DS who's exhausting enough. You will get through this tough time and start feeling more positive about everything soon.

Mishy1234 · 15/12/2009 15:54

So sorry, have just seen this is an old thread.

Apologies for perpetuating an old discussion.

Morloth · 15/12/2009 16:18

I find the thought of twins absolutely terrifying. I am sure I would get on with things if I needed to, but I am glad I don't need too.

Having said that have been teasing a friend horribly about her newborn twins. She spent years and years and years and a ton of cash on IVF and now has a 5 year old, a 3 year old and newborn twins. When I was pregnant with DS and she had not been able to conceive, she was very firm about not hearing me moan (fair enough). So now I get to tell her that she can't complain about not having babies and then complain about having too many!

This too shall pass, it has to get easier doesn't it?

Morloth · 15/12/2009 16:20

bugger, didn't spot old thread either - sorry!

verytellytubby · 15/12/2009 16:25

I'm finding my 4 year old twin boys hellish at the moment. My DD does as well!

They are lovely boys generally but first term of school and all they do is fight and whinge. Ho hum.

The noise volume is shocking. I've got twinitis.

verytellytubby · 15/12/2009 16:27

Sorry hadn't read through the whole thread.

CupOChristmasCheerfulYank · 15/12/2009 16:30

It happens. You love your boys to bits I'm sure, just have had a bad day.

Shabs? You still there? I wanted you to know that, after I read your story, I think of you every time I have a bad day with my (2.5 yr old) DS. I find myself wanting to scream somedays, and I think of you and how you would give anything to have even the worst day with your boys back. It makes me hug my boy just a little longer, and go in just a little more often to watch him sleep at night. I'm so sorry for your losses, and I wanted to know that your story, that your boys, have made me a better and more patient mother.

porcamiseria · 15/12/2009 18:01

listen to yourself!!!!

I just think they are tedious and annoying. So does my DH and older DS1.

you dont really mean this do you!!! come one

Tortington · 15/12/2009 18:02

i never rated having twins.

good job too - it was a fkin nightmare beyond all comprehension

chopstheduck · 15/12/2009 18:23

Horatiosmum - go and join the d'y ever thread in the multiples forum, you will get lots of support there. This thread is very old now.

It's not all bad I promise, just has it's up and downs like any parenting! COngrats on your pregnancy.

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