to be angry with my 4yo dd for keeping me up half the night ?

[noonar]

a bit of background...its been a really shit week. for many reasons:

1. my FIL had open heart surgery yesterday and we still don't really know how he's doing.
2. self employed dh has decided he can no longer afford to draw a salary from his company so we are in financial difficulties.
3. we had to cancel our skiing holiday- balance due on friday.
4. am feeling low and am trying to salavage something from a rather shitty half term week, so decided to take the dds-4 and 6- to london to the natural history museum. we were going to go today as soon as we hear how fil is doing (he's too poorly for visits)

but...dd decided to make things even harder for us. as well as being v attention seeking and calling out for an hour at bed timelast night, she kept us up for a good hour plus during the night having a tantrum. i couldnt get back to sleep, so now feel even more shit and have decided we are not going to london.

i feel really cross with dd2 for adding to our stress and am really resentful that she has spoiled our day.

i know that its not her fault that its been such a dreadful week, but AIBU to expect a 4yo understand the consqeuences
of keeping us all up half the night??

I think you might be being a bit hard on DD... sounds like you are all under so much stress and DD is aware and trying to steal a bit of the lime light too. But she is only 4 years old, and if she did this on a night when you didnt have all the major life worries would you be quite so cross?

When we get stressed sometimes its easy to find the things our kids too more annoying / on purpose etc adn they become a scape goat for our emotions.

Take her to the Nat Hist museum, have a really super day. Tell her she had naughty behaviour and you will not stand for it again tonight and then jsut move on.

Have a nice day away from all the stresses of life at the moment.

x

I agree with morningpaper's post but it is very, very difficult when you are at the end of your wick.

My mother recently died very suddenly and I got a horrible vomiting bug just after the funeral. Poor DD has been terribly disrupted I know and her sleep has gone bananas. Even though I know why she's sleeping badly I do find it hard to cope with her. So, sympathy. I do have a fixed smile on my face for her and I have lost my temper on occasion.

I hope FIL is doing well.