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AIBU?

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Or was I? Bit of a birthday party rant and to see if anyone would have done anything differently!

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Aimsmum · 27/10/2008 15:57

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MmeTussaudsChmberOfChocHobnobs · 27/10/2008 16:01

No you should not offer, she was very rude in keeping you waiting (twice!). And to expect you to pay for her pick and mix

I feel a bit sorry for the girl, it must be horrible to have such a disorganised mum.

Don't think anything more of it.

lilymolly · 27/10/2008 16:01

she sounds like a selfish cow- Dont even worry about the money for the ticket.

I feel sorry for her daughter if I am honest

MrsMattie · 27/10/2008 16:02

She turned up an hour and a half late coming and 45 mins late afterwards. She was taking the piss. Don't feel bad. I would just forget the whole thing, to be honest, and make a mental note that H's mum is a bit of a flake.

soultaken · 27/10/2008 16:04

Don't waste another minute of your life worrying about it - You did what you said you were gonna do. She fucked you around.

Can't believe people are this cheeky really.

You've done nothing wrong. I'd think twice before involving this child in any other activities.

SharkyandGeorge · 27/10/2008 16:04

Blimey I think you earned that £4 of hers faffing round for her all day. Some people are so inconsiderate.

mumto2andnomore · 27/10/2008 16:04

She sounds a complete nightmare so no dont feel guilty about the £4. Lucky the film had not sold out ! How old are these girls ? Im hoping they are quite old seeing as she dropped her off without checking you were there.

You sound like you were very calm and handled it well.

TrillianAstra · 27/10/2008 16:04

She turns up late twice without any warning, and you bought her £9 worth of pick and mix! Why exactly do you think you owe this woman something?

How old are the kids? I feel sorry for H. It must be awful to have your parents be late for things all the time (if she's old enough to notice and be embarrassed).

beaniescreamyb · 27/10/2008 16:04

"Everyone responded except one girl (not local) we'll call her H so on the Thursday night DD phoned the girl to check she was coming she said yes, I spoke to the mum, confirmed the arrangements, and then again confirmed them by text"

do you think that maybe you dealt with the situation a little harshly because you were still annoyed by the fact that they didn't confirm until the Thursday night?

How do you feel an=bout this mum and child in general? Maybe I am wrong but I sense you are not that fussed about them to start with.

missjennipenni · 27/10/2008 16:04

It probably is unreasonable, but i wouldnt have paid either!

Moomin · 27/10/2008 16:05

Foerget it. She sounds a bit slack but also like she won't brood on things much like you have. She was rude, imo, but really not worth fretting over. She obviously hasn't spent time worrying about the cocked-up arrangements so I really wouldn't worry about the £4. The mum sounds flaky and thoughtless but not unhappy about it! Let it go and remember what she's like if you invite her dd to anything else

TrillianAstra · 27/10/2008 16:05

Agree with mumto2: very impressed at your calm handling of things.

Majeika · 27/10/2008 16:08

Forget it!

I am still annoyed that a friend who was meeting me at 10.20am 'I can be there earlier if you like' at the cinema was 25 mins late! (as always!) and so meant that I was too late to get snacks for my boys from the supermarket!

Lateness riles me and I would at least have the decency to say sorry.

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Aimsmum · 27/10/2008 16:23

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missjennipenni · 27/10/2008 16:33

Id have refused the slush though, id have told her they werent part of the party food!

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Aimsmum · 27/10/2008 16:37

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shootfromthehip · 27/10/2008 16:43

i think the slush was fair as she had missed the MacD's and the party bag. Beyond that don't worry about the money as the woman was quite clearly taking the piss. YANBU. Poor kid

Mum2OliverJames · 27/10/2008 16:48

you had already paid for her ticket anyway, which you gave away because you didnt think she was coming.

she should re-imburse you

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Aimsmum · 27/10/2008 16:51

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Blu · 27/10/2008 16:52

Did she know that you had already given the ticket away because they hadn't turned up?

If she knows that, I think it's fine. Otherwise, if you see her, say 'oh, sorry you ended up paying for the ticket in the rush - the thing is as the film had started i had assumed she wasn't coming and given the ticket i had bought away'.

But her behaviour in telling you to buy a slush was pretty extraordinary, really. AND she should have been a lot more spologetic.

The whole situation is a result of her disorganisation - don't worry.

MadamDeathstare · 27/10/2008 16:56

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bythepowerofgreyskull · 27/10/2008 16:58

YANBU
I there are a few things that get my goat and lateness is one of them... and how sad for the daughter that her Mum is late for fun things she could be enjoying.

Good on you for not paying for the pick and mix!

sunnygirl1412 · 27/10/2008 17:23

I think you are being very reasonable, and the mum's behaviour beggars belief.

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Aimsmum · 27/10/2008 17:27

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KatieDD · 27/10/2008 17:34

If the woman can spend £9 on pic a mix she can afford the £4 ticket, some people

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Aimsmum · 28/10/2008 10:08

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