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Original poster

to NOT send xmas cards to people I rarley or never see anymore?

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needsomeonetotalkto · 26/10/2008 17:21

Prehaps with the exception of family members?

I am not going to do as I don't see the point, it is a waste of time, money and environmental resources.

What do you think?

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ElviraInanEcup · 26/10/2008 17:22

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darkpunk · 26/10/2008 17:36

i agree with you..i used to send cards to people i hadn't seen in 10 years?? complete waste of time..i stopped a couple of years ago.

UnfortunatelyMurderedMe · 26/10/2008 17:37

YANBU. Go see your friends and family instead of sending a card to them too.

WingsofaBatEyeofNewt · 26/10/2008 17:44

I agree with you. Apart from people who live a long distance from you which can make it difficult to see them regularly.

Rubyrubyruby · 26/10/2008 17:46

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PenelopePitstops · 26/10/2008 17:46

agree sort of, although i only send them to people i dont see as a chance to catch up

whats they point in sending them to people you see all the time?

Horton · 26/10/2008 17:46

I send emails to people I'm genuinely sorry I live a long way from. Everyone else can bugger off! And no point sending cards to people you will speak to/see at Christmas, either, IMO.

branflake81 · 26/10/2008 17:47

well I never send christmas cards to anyone. Cannot be arsed. Bah humbug

mylittlescarypumpkin · 26/10/2008 17:56

I do it to keep in touch - because if I don't see them, it's not because I don't want to, more because lives are busy and grow apart. But YANBU if you don't want to. I don't think it's a waste of time becuase the cards I get in return really cheer me up.

nooOOOoonki · 26/10/2008 18:00

YANBU - save a tree or two if everyone did it

nooOOOoonki · 26/10/2008 18:01

though I would prioritise sending them to those I don't see other those I see regularly (coz then what is the point)

cory · 26/10/2008 18:03

I'm the opposite. Wouldn't see the point in buying a card for someone I'll be seeing round about Xmas time; it's the others I need to keep in touch with. Same with B'day cards, don't see the point in handing over a card with the written words Happy Birthday when I'm actually standing there in person and quite capable of speaking for myself.

MrsTittleMouse · 26/10/2008 18:15

I'd rather send to those I didn't see too - the ones that I don't see the point in are the ones to family that we see on the actual day.

lljkk · 26/10/2008 18:20

We also only send cards to people we rarely see, the point is, they are people we want to keep in contact with in spite of the lack of regular communication.

People we see almost every day we can say 'Happy Christmas' to, in person, so no need for the card (not very env. friendly items, anyway).

Original poster
needsomeonetotalkto · 26/10/2008 18:20

I don't get it. Unless it is family why? I'm not being argumentative - just don't understand, Unless friends live too far away to realistically see - then why keep in touch?

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janeite · 26/10/2008 18:25

I gave up sending Christmas cards two years ago for environmental reasons, apart from 5 or 6 ones that I handmake to send to family. Nobody really seems to have noticed tbh.

cory · 26/10/2008 18:42

needsomeonetotalkto on Sun 26-Oct-08 18:20:48
"I don't get it. Unless it is family why? I'm not being argumentative - just don't understand, Unless friends live too far away to realistically see - then why keep in touch? "

Errr....because you're fond of them? Because they're friends? I left a whole load of friends behind when I emigrated 15 years ago. I still keep in touch with a lot of them. Try to meet up with as many as poss once a year but not necessarily at Christmas. People have pen friends. Dh and I kept in touch by letter through most of our 10 year long engagement. Also like to keep in touch with relatives whom I may not be able to see very often, but will now and again. And colleagues. Networking.

MrsMattie · 26/10/2008 18:44

YANBU, but I am completely the opposite. I see Xmas cards as a great way of re-establishing contact with people I care about but rarely see, or even just a nice way of saying 'Our lives have gone separate ways, but I still think about you / wish you well'. Each to their own, though.

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needsomeonetotalkto · 26/10/2008 18:45

'Tis different. i am talking about people who are friends but you/they are too busy to meet up - that is not really friendship is it

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tuesdayafternoon · 26/10/2008 18:53

I still send cards to quite a few people I haven't seen for years, & they send to us too. We are not close, but we were good friends when we worked together, & we are interested in each others' families; I love getting their news, & photos of their children (& hope the reverse is also true )

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needsomeonetotalkto · 26/10/2008 18:55

tuesday - if that makes you happy - all good. But I just don't get it.

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tuesdayafternoon · 26/10/2008 19:03

It is mostly down to geography - does that make any difference?

Original poster
needsomeonetotalkto · 26/10/2008 19:04

tuesday

Yes - can understand now.

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ohdearwhatamess · 26/10/2008 19:22

I don't bother sending them to people I will see in person to say 'Happy Christmas'. I send only to relatives I won't see and friends who are overseas. Had a huge cull of my card list last year and now have it down to about 10 people.

PuppyMonkey · 26/10/2008 19:25

This will be my third year of not sending Christmas cards to anyone. At all. And I can honestly say we have not lost a single friendship through this policy.