To expect some rest when I am ill?

[InNeedOfSleep]

This is not an attack on my partner (who is working today) or small child (who is pretty much always high as a kite) but it's one of the hardest things about being a parent. I feel deathly and just want to sleep. But can't. And don't want to be ill for whole half term!

Technically YABU. But I sympathise. It particularly sucks when your partner's ill and swans of to bed to get better.

Ohhhhh, I've just posted about this. It is awful, sick dd, sick me.....me in bathroom with exploding bum (all over the floor ....she downstairs screaming and tantrumming.....Oh how I laughed.

My fantasy is a religious retreat but with no religion for about 4 weeks......and no way of getting in contact with me

and that little voice going mumeemumeemumeemumeee with no break..........makes you feel so much better

Oh beeny. I am at the hotel

I have been permanently ill for about a year now, basically since dd1 started nursery. One cold, followed by stomach bug, followed by another cold, followed by chest infection, followed by proper flu - then I did get a week in bed but it was no fun at all feeling guilty about mil looking after dcs, followed by bronchitis, etc, etc.

I hate it. I feel if only I could have a week in the sun somewhere, with eight hours sleep a night guaranteed and long days in a lounger snoozing, I'd recuperate finally but that ain't gonna happen because no one would take the dds - and I'd miss them. When I think of all the holidays I used to have like that, waargh!

It's because I'm never fully recovered that I'm open to the next bug that dd1 brings home. Am fed up of constantly feeling so low physically and mentally. Dh is unsympathetic and gets angry because I don't want to stay up watching DVDs with him but want to go to bed at 9pm.

Anyway, feel a bit better for venting that. Good luck to all you other ill and tired mums out there, it is shite and the only comfort is knowin gwe're all in it together

I think your dp needs to be a bit nicer to you juju

I go to bed at 9pm even when not ill....just having Lo's makes you so tired.........

Are your DC old enough to play at 'looking after mummy'?

I felt sick last night and lay in bed. DS offered to read to me, then he sang me a few songs, before saying - 'are you too sleepy now mummy?'. When I said yes, he went off and DH put him to bed!

Sometimes it just works out beautifully.

I agree fizzbuzz - am glad you are in the 9pm club too I'm always made to feel like such a loser.

Problem is my dh just doesn't need as much sleep as me and has a stronger immune system. And I think it's important to occasionally watch a film together or whatever as part of "couple time". But I can barely keep my eyes open and can't concentrate because I'm thinking of the sleep I could be having! Anyway, he's out tonight so am gonna go to bed at eight!

Oh, it's so sad what this parenting lark reduces you to

All those years I fought against going to bed at 8 or 9 pm. All those student years when I never went to bed at all

Ds 14 thinks I'm a loser too, but I have to go to bed early. Most people I know do tbh

i pulled a muscle the other day-the gp said to rest.i laughed and said you do know i have 3 dc dont you.

hope your better soon.

I am just getting over a nasty dose of mastitis, never had it before didn'y realise how aggresive it could be

The doc who gave me the antibiotics told me to go to bed and stay there

I would have laughed but I could barely move

I still feel pretty shit now but getting better

and now I have a complete shit tip of a houyse to deal with as I haven't been doing anything since friday

Hope you feel better.

Have been very sick and tired with this pg. DS eats junk and watches telly all day (as do I but also I MN). I go to bed when DH gets home but then have to get up to do bedtime, as DS still BF to sleep.

DH was away in America last week. I nearly died. He's had 2 lie ins and a lie down on the sofa being brought tea, to get over his gruelling 7 hours on a plane with no-one bothering him and people bringing him drinks and food.

And I know I'm far luckier than some.

actually just feel like crying

TrinityRhino bless you.

Feel really sorry for everyone here, there's nothing more miserable in my experience.
A bit like jujumama, i seem to have had cold after cold, virus after virus. it's only been going on since september but it's really dragging me down. Today i dragged my sorry self to the supermarket (with the dcs - eek) and felt like i was walking through treacle, or someone had removed my batteries. we ended up sitting in the cafe with me hugging a coffee for dear life and the kids drinking milkshakes. thank god they were in co-operative mood or you might have seen me in the paper, under the heading 'supermarket massacre" (then again, that would have involved energy).
dh is working stupid hours so no help there.
Am going to throw myself at the doctor tomorrow morning bu i don't really know what to tell him apart from "i seem to be feeling permanently crap lately".
oh, and i agreed to help run a halloween party for 80 under-4s tomorrow afternoon. at this rate i could be the scariest thing at the event.
Hugs all round!

Oooh - am pleased others have thought about hospital admissions too

Have cold, kidney infection, DD has asthma, DS has cold/cough.

DP went off this afternoon for some, wait for it, 'me time..'

What's 'rest'?

'rest' is what you get when you've brutally murdered your entire family in cold blood and then languish in a nice padded cell under the charge of 'diminshed responsibility due to insanity'.

pmsl

sounds like a plan

i have a chesty cold chronic cough thing going on and 30 weeks pregnant and i am completely wiped out. she isn't even born yet and is not allowing me the sleep i need. she gets active just as i crawl into bed, for nap or night time, and wakes me way to early... way to early for my liking or at least to what i am use to. then she steals all my nutrients, leaving me none to fend it off so i am left with this damn cold now for almost two weeks. i could always get over a cold within a few days.

i remember my mother when she got sick. we were left to our own devices. i don't remember much when i was little, but i was the 'babysitter' when mom was sick (seven years between myself and my sisters). by the sounds of the posters here, she was likely the only mother that got any rest when she was sick and it seemed it was a weekly thing... her 'headaches'.

It is one of the worst things. It is marginally better being a WOHM - but if you have to get up and walk 3 miles to get dd to childminders, heck, you might as well go to work. Plus, I want to "save" any days "off sick" for if DD is ill. Dose yourself up to the max is my mantra - fortunately my GP (male, but father to two girls) seems to get it, and my recurrent ear infections lately have been very well medicated. Get better soon to all suffering. And DON'T turn down any help.

Once DD2 is at school I have decided I am owed about a year's sick leave....

My mil looks after dd once a week at our house. I can't be ill then either....I was once, and she went home at 10.00am, leaving ill me with hyper dd

JuJumaman I hope you are feeling better,I also like to go to bed at nine.I am so tired and ill told my dh to have an affair and he can have custody.

Just read jujumamam's post about her dp needing less sleep and having a stronger immune system. Hmm who else is seeing a pattern here? Are we the weaker sex or do we juggle lots (more?) and prioritise others' needs above our own? (This might explain greater need for sleep or so-called weaker immune system...)

And to the poster (sorry don't recall tag) who had the misfortune to plough into MIL's badly placed gates: my heart goes out to you. I hope you're (ALL) feeling better soon (myself am starting to feel bit more human having forced DP to stay at home today to look after DC while I recover (!!!)