to be hacked off that childminder didn't want DD today

[Mij]

Well, I think I am in part, but not completely.

DD had slightly dodgy bowels yesterday, but not diahorrea (ie no urgency, just very splattery and went 3 times in a day when she normally goes less than once a day), and was very, very slightly sick in the night - she may have even coughed herself sick rather than spontaneously barffed, not sure.

She was a little tired this morning but showed no other signs of poorliness, bowels seemed back to normal, everything seemed fine.

I had to speak to the childminder this morning as we were going a bit late and might have had to drop her at a playgroup instead of at her house. Stupidly I mentioned that she was under the weather, and CM said 'better stay on the safe side, as the other two children are going on holiday'.

Now, I work part time, am losing a day's work this week anyway as DP is away and he has her one of my days, and I'm massively backed up at work (which is a big deal as I'm the manager of, well, everything). If I thought DD had something she could pass on, I wouldn't have hesitated to keep her home.

But to be asked to keep her away because of the other kids? This childminder is usually quite rational about illness - colds and coughs, no problem, unidentified spots only after GP has checked, obviously rampant diseases, stay away. All find and sensible as far as I'm concerned.

The reason I'm feeling hard done by is that she'd be taking the other two to playgroup where they could pick up anything anyway, and it seems a bit weird to protect them from something that wasn't obviously a bug anyway, and that looked like it was over in less than 12 hours. Kids go to her with streaming colds and hacking coughs, and surely that would spoil someone's holiday more than a 12 hr bug?

Also - I know the other parents haven't ever shown us the same consideration.

It just seems a bit of an overreaction on the CMs part. I accept that I'm a bit nonchalent about germs, but the other two kids are older than DD (who is 2.25) and pretty robust, it's not like there were tiny babies around to catch anything.

I do appreciate this may sound selfish, but it's the inconsistency that is bugging me, rather than the action itself I think.

I think the point is you can't possibly know if it's something she ate or a bug. The only way you'd know was when it got passed on. Which is a bit late. I guess that's why schools and most childcare settings are so strict about it.

As an aside I have a cm friend who gets really fed up of parents sending her their poorly children, underplaying how ill they are, her own kids keep getting the bugs off them. You may see ill children with your CM but perhaps she didn't know how ill they were until they'd been left with her.

not trying to get at you op, but God this reminds me of why I gave up childminding, parents push the kids in the door with hacking coughs, high temperatures, noses that run (for months!), kids that obviously need a day at home/in bed and are only fit for hanging over you, they think you won't mind, then your own kids get whatever the minded kids have and THEY are off school.

Bloody nightmare

and all for shit money

{shudder}

d &v is highly contagious and can spread really quickly plus there is a bug goin garound at the moment anyway..within 24 hrs of contact theyre coming down with it .