To be irritated that dh keeps saying bitty bitty whenever I bf my 11 month old ds?

[NOgirlsallowed]

Or have I had a sense of humouyr bypass and I seriously need to rediscover it? I know that bf an older baby is unusual but he's not fed that often. He usually says it when I give him his morning feed but it can be at any time. I just don't find it funny at all and I'm getting more and more irritated grrr!!

[notsoseriousanymore]

Oops, sorry theyoungvisiter...

I am a philistine and that is probably spelt incorrectly and all the pedants will be after me too!!!

Seriously (or notsoseriously! ) it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I'm not trying to say others shouldn't be bothered, but I don't think it's worth falling out with your DH over, I just don't...

[OrmIrian]

I hate that.
My SIL used to say that when I was feeding DS#2. He was much older than 11m though. It made me self-conscious about it.

Stupid nasty little sketch. Ammunition for anti-bfers everwhere

[LavenderTea]

He is sooo not cool or funny,,,, so no YANBU..

I would be showing him my middle finger if it were my Dh....

Besides, It wasn't even funny when Little Britain did it... Nothing they did was funny. Has your Dh lost his sense of humour ???

Tell him to find something with at least moderate humour to entertain you with ...

[WinkyWinkola]

Bitty is a nasty little word.

It's meant to present breast feeding as inappropriate behaviour.

It's meant to make the mother feel uncomfortable for doing it.

It's a wanky thing to say to a parent. My hand would itch to slap the person who said it.

There's no really good riposte to it yet apart from, "You're a dick. Go and boil your head," and even that is lacking.

[cornflakegirl]

The sketch is funny. It's so ridiculous!

Imvho, 11 months isn't even close to being extended breastfeeding. So I think saying "bitty" in reference to feeding an 11mo is only insulting if it's intended to be insulting.

I agree that the OP's DH should really be more considerate. However, it's easier to change oneself than to change others. If the OP's DH has no other issues with her breastfeeding, maybe she should just try to tune out this comment?

[notsoseriousanymore]

Cornflakegirl - You said what I was thinking in a much nicer and more articulate way.

Thankyou!

[theyoungvisiter]

but isn't the issue that a kind, considerate husband wouldn't say things that make his wife feel uncomfortable about her body etc?

I mean, if I were trying to lose weight and DH kept throwing Marjorie Dawes quotes at me, I'd be pretty pissed off too and would expect him to stop.

I really don't think it matters if it's funny or not - you just don't make jokes at the expense of your other half if they find it upsetting - I mean why would you?

[wuzzlefraggle]

To the OP - YANBU It would get on my nerves too

[notsoseriousanymore]

Men aren't naturally kind and considerate though, are they??? And they aren't subtle most of the time either...

If my DH thought I was overweight, he wouldn't throw a Majorie Dawes comment at me he would say 'Look, DW, you're a bit porky... You could do with losing a bit' Or he would make a comment about the muffin top while giving me a cuddle.

If my DH didn't want me to BF, he'd say 'I don't want like you BF'ing' he wouldn't make a subtle comment about it.

For us, it's funny, because DS doesn't get any nutritional value from it at all - he is bottle fed now, but sometimes when he's tired and cranky, it calms him down. But, there again, I say it to explain why I'm going to the nursery (I don't BF in public - not even DH) and you guys probably think that's wrong too...

[Peachy]

D came out with itn yesterday too

Which is bizarre as baby is 6 months and I fed ds3 until 16 months no comments

Ta muchly little britain folk!

[PustuleRots]

Hmm, DH is very kind and considerate. Must remember to check for penis when he gets home from work.

[MorticiaAnnSpookington]

I'd want to smash his head in for being such an iriitating twat.

[notsoseriousanymore]

I don't get it!!!

It's NOT OK for a man to say 'bitty' but it's fine for a woman to say 'I'd want to smash his head in for being such an iriitating twat. '

Men are just more direct, that's my point.

My DH is a lovely husband and father, but I'll be waiting until the cows come home for him to tink about my feelings when he makes a joke. It's a JOKE.... Take a chill!!

If he has something to say, he will tell me. Directly. He will not make a jokey, subtle, half comment about it.

Honestly, I think you must all be suffering from PMT.

[notsoseriousanymore]

I don't get it!!!

It's NOT OK for a man to say 'bitty' but it's fine for a woman to say 'I'd want to smash his head in for being such an iriitating twat. '

Men are just more direct, that's my point.

My DH is a lovely husband and father, but I'll be waiting until the cows come home for him to tink about my feelings when he makes a joke. It's a JOKE.... Take a chill!!

If he has something to say, he will tell me. Directly. He will not make a jokey, subtle, half comment about it.

Honestly, I think you must all be suffering from PMT.

[notsoseriousanymore]

You know, sounds like one rule for one, and another rule for everyone else.

FWIW, this was posted in AM I BEING UNREASONABLE?

I didn't realise that, in order to post (without taking a pasting) you had to AGREE with the OP.

I disagree with the OP. That doesn't make me wrong or bad or subhuman.

I think the OP IS unreasonable. I am entitled to that opinion.. yes?

And I think a BF'ing mum shouldn't really be thinking of smashing anyone's head in. THAT sort of behaviour is unacceptable.

Anyway, I've had enough of this so I'm off.

[theyoungvisiter]

"And I think a BF'ing mum shouldn't really be thinking of smashing anyone's head in. THAT sort of behaviour is unacceptable."

Oh sorry! I didn't realise we were supposed to check in all normal human emotions at the door when we got our norks out .

Out of interest, would it be ok for a FF mum to want to smash someone's head in?

FGS, just because you are feeding, or a mum, or whatever, you still have the right to get pissed off with people, swear, shout, scream, be furious whatever! If you were to ACTUALLY smash someone's head in while breastfeeding, I agree that would be unacceptable (not to mention quite brilliantly dexterous), but surely we're all human and allowed to be pissed off?

And FWIW my DH is very kind and considerate! Sure he makes jokes at my expense and sure, sometimes they aren't funny, but if he saw I was pissed off about it he wouldn't go on and on after I'd asked him to stop (and the OP did say that she'd asked her DH to stop).

I guess it's horses for courses though - some people obviously don't find the term offensive so of course it doesn't seem a nasty thing to bang on about.

[fabsmum]

"because DS doesn't get any nutritional value from it at all"

What, are your boobs making fanta now instead of milk?

[SharpMolarBear]

fabsmum, she has said "I think it's rather funny when my DS grapples at my chest, even though he has been formula fed for the last 2 months...

SOmetimes, if he gets into a complete stress, I do give him my breast (to calm him - he gets no nutrition from it at all)and I will refer to it as 'bitty' to my DH"

[Rhubarb]

Ooooh, this has turned nasty!

I agree with the poster who said you're all suffering from pmt!

(this being something my dh accuses me of everytime I get annoyed)

Yes it's annoying, which is why I suggested the 'maggoty' comment when he goes for a slash. But my, some women really don't have a sense of humour do they? Why get so defensive about breastfeeding? Everytime you react like that you are just building a wall up between you and everyone else. It's not a joke made by a stranger, it's her husband! She's had suggestions of how to stop him so that should be that. To see it end up with mothers slagging off other mothers is just sad.

And I do think that sketch is very funny and yes I breastfed. It's funny in context, but if my dh said it everytime I fed, he'd soon get the message that it had lost it's appeal.

(I do take it that the threats of violence are just jokes too. So if you argue that "bitty" is just a joke, then do understand that people threatening to rip their dh's heads off is also tongue in cheek)