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to think it's inappropriate for a 4 year old boy to be wearing an earring to school?

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chipmunkswhereareyou · 20/10/2008 22:34

Because I do. Maybe I should go off and read the Daily Mail but it just seems inappropriate at that age.

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chipmunkswhereareyou · 21/10/2008 11:17

That's what I thought too Loumacca.

I confess initially I noticed it because he was a boy but it would bother me as much for a four year old girl.

It was a stud earring not a dangly number at least. Maybe he has just had it done recently and is in that time period when you have to leave it in for the piercing to work but I was still surprised that the school allowed this (boy or girl) in a child so young.

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stroppyknickers · 21/10/2008 11:29

omg. I need to stand up for the other side on this. Lots of children have their ears pierced, even my posh friends have allowed earrings. It's only dangerous if they are dangly, studs are fine. Even at four a child can definitely want something rather than it be their parents evening. I sense a little bit of snobbery going on...

NotDoingTheHousework · 21/10/2008 11:33

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muggglewump · 21/10/2008 11:37

I admit I don't like the look on little boys but I have nothing against kids wearing them as such.
My DD did at that age, younger in fact.

MarmadukeScarletbloodstains · 21/10/2008 11:46

Sorry stroppyknickers but no genuinely 'posh' person would allow their child to have pierced ears at such a young age, a wannabe posh or nouveaux riche perhaps.

With LGJ on this. No piercings in my DD's year 4 class.

tortoiseshellWasMusicaYearsAgo · 21/10/2008 11:48

YANBU. I hate ear-rings on little children, boys or girls.

stroppyknickers · 21/10/2008 11:57

oh let's not start defining 'posh'. Perhaps I should say upper middle class. It's just so snobby and petty to worry about what another person's child is wearing/doing unless it directly affects you or is harming the child.

Blandmum · 21/10/2008 11:57

H and S. Not a good idea for either sex tbh

DaphneMoon · 21/10/2008 12:09

I noticed a boy of about 10/11 at my DS school the other day with one, it is the first time I have noticed any boy at this school with an earing. Personally thought it was revolting and sounds snobby but I thought it let the school down. I was actually quite shocked as the school has quite a strict policy on uniform etc. Hate earings on men, actually don't like jewellery on men full stop. Can just about cope with a wedding band. Yuck Yuck, especially any man over 40 with earing.

DaphneMoon · 21/10/2008 12:11

Also wanted to say that I think it should be against the law to for children under the age of 16 to be pierced. Hate seeing babies with earing, how dare the parent make that decision for a baby. I have pierced ears but wasn't allowed them until I was 16.

seeker · 21/10/2008 12:11

I don't like it. But I don't like anyone having their ears pierced before they can give consent.

there must be 5 or 6 in ds's year though!

seeker · 21/10/2008 12:11

I don't like it. But I don't like anyone having their ears pierced before they can give consent.

there must be 5 or 6 in ds's year though!

mumof2222222222222222boys · 21/10/2008 12:18

There is a boy at my son's nursery who is 3 or 4 with one pierced ear. Not my cup of tea. DS was asking me why I had earings and a necklace and he wanted some too. I said "Daddy doesn't wear them - he's a boy." So DS said, "But Liam does and he's a boy...." I told him that earings involved big needles and sometimes blood and it hurt! He's gone off the idea.

Lauriefairycake · 21/10/2008 12:20

I don't think children of either sex should have any piercings while still at school or wear jewellery that interferes with them having the rough and tumble of childhood.

mabanana · 21/10/2008 12:22

Are we all studiously avoiding the 'c' word then?
Because we are all thinking it, aren't we...

Lauriefairycake · 21/10/2008 12:27

is the 'c' for common, chavvy or Christmas then mabanana

Blu · 21/10/2008 12:30

Chic?

onager · 21/10/2008 12:30

I'm with Seeker in not liking anyone having their ears pierced before they can give consent. I don't get why it's inappropriate for a boy though. In my younger days they'd have said it was because earrings were for girls or transvestites, but surely that's long gone.

I find it strange that the school gets a say in it. WTF has it to do with them? If it were about health & Safety that would be a reason of sorts, but they talk about it breaching uniform rules ffs.

Blu · 21/10/2008 12:30

Classy?

Blu · 21/10/2008 12:32

Co-ordinated?

But that would only apply if he has a matching pair - or, as in DS's school, his twin sister has one too.

GrapefruitMoon · 21/10/2008 12:32

I don't like earrings on small children of either sex but if girls are allowed to wear them then boys should be allowed too. We have lots of families at our school who originate from countries where it is the custom to pierce girls' ears when babies. So it seems to be allowed. Haven't noticed any boys wearing earrings though...

ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween · 21/10/2008 12:32

I think ear rings on a 4yo are inappropriate full stop.

DaphneMoon · 21/10/2008 12:34

Why shouldn't the school have a say in it. Lowers the tone IMO.

ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween · 21/10/2008 12:34

I'm mentally using the acronym "SOKAC" for Style Once Known As, er, something beginning with C. Because there is a distinct style which has nothing to do with any class implications.

GhostlySinCity · 21/10/2008 12:35

I hate seeing little boys with shaved heads and earings. Mini football hooligans who have never seen the ocean.

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