To be pleased that bully who made my like a misery now looks DREADFUL

[Janos]

Yes, AIB VERY U and hideously shallow to boot, I know this.

Saw her pic online after someone directed me to it and said, remember X? Well look at this!

But..she was really foul to me in school. That's my excuse.

I was horrible to someone at my school many many years ago. I feel awful about it to this day. I don't know her name, no idea where she lives (i no longer live in the country where this happened). I landed up getting her into detention twice when it was not necessary (i was a putrid prefect).

how can I apologise to someone when i don't know who she is or where she is??? and reading some of these posts, seems like apologies are often worthless. i honestly and truly feel dreadful about how horrible i was to her.

Yanbu, its the most satisfying thing ever! I don't live in my childhood area but my nan still does so I often ask her about old school "friends" (ie bullies) and they are still living there, 15 kids no partners, no jobs, no hope. What I like about it is that I was mainly bullied for being a swot/ teachers pet/ having a coat from Next but I still kept my head down, got in to private school, went to a red brick University and did pretty well for myself so what good did it do them?

Having said that, one girl who used always go for me (she once made me go and ask this boy out for her but he said no because he fancied me! That went down well, that is if being beaten up after school is well) but I later learnt when I was older that her mum was a druggie and was often seen in the dirty top shelf mags in our local newsagent so i felt a bit sorry for her after that, she had a pretty tough upbringing from what I could see. No excuse to be a bully but hey.

Mabanana, apology accepted .

Schadenfreude is german for 'malicious joy'. Not something any of us should be proud of, but an understandable emotion when people have experienced horrible things, as can be seen from so many of the posts on this thread.

For the record, I never wished ill on my sister, nor was her baby sick, just early and small. I still maintain it is better to vent on MN rather than in real life, and I got loads of really helpful advice and support from many of those on the thread who shared their insight and experiences with me. I don't recall 'moaning it wasn't fair .

Numberfour, there is a girl I speak to a lot now that I wasn't kindest to at school.
I'm there for her now if she ever needs me and supported her through a terrible time with breastfeeding.
Who knows how the girl you were horrid to would react, pity you don't know her name or you could have looked her up.

I'm surprised there are so many posts on this thread! or maybe I shouldn't be because bullying always brings out strong feelings.

I will admit, I'm a little bit ashamed of being so pleased about this which is why I posted.

don't i was the skinny, popular girl at school (was never a meany though) and am now a right chubber-oh how they would laugh at a school re-union!!