AIBU to be pissed off that the head teacher has banned nutella in the school for one child?

[eddiejo]

The story.... one boy (hers) has allergy to nuts so now nutella is banned . I totally understand the whole anaphlaxis thing but as mum to year 1 boy with multiple food allergies - i would never expect the rest of the school to stop eating what he is allergic to.

Nutella was one of the few spreads which he could eat and made the bread edible. not healthy I know but more important to get energy in him.

What do you think?

Is it an option for you to take your child home for lunch. Then you can feed him whatever you like.

Mallory the other kid breathing in his face wouldn't have been an issue if nuts had been banned in that school.

kids being kids, school is rather more of a close, skin-contact environment than most adult activities, and children, imhe, cannot be expected to administer an epipen to themselves in the way that an adult could.

can't believe how willing people on here are to risk other children's lives.

eddiejo imo yanbu

I think yabu and have reported your last post

Hey eddiejo seems like we have some things in common.

My DD doesn't do well on wheat but she can play with flour/touch it etc.

She would die if she ate a peanut though (and no-one was around to jab her with the epipen).

To be honest cikecaka, I have no idea any more. It's just weird how other children have been allergic to nuts in the school and suddenly it's banned when her son enters.

Others children with nut allergies (i know two others)could have died in the school when it wasn't banned.

wannaBe, glad you posted that as I thought I had it wrong and good point about banning all food people could be allergic to.

I was trying to imagine how it worked since there would be kids in the street. Playing in the garden next door. Shops that sold peanuts and so on.

doh - that should have said Colditz I have reported your post

Thanks Yurtgirl

Thanks Yurtgirl

Is it not just elimination of risk? yes someone in the street could breathe on you after eating peanuts but more unlikely than a child sitting next to you munching on a peanut cereal bar. Why not eliminate or minimise the risk by asking parents not to send in peanuts. My kids have lovely packed lunches and never miss having nut produts. If I bake stuff for their packed lunches I make a batch without nuts - again not difficult. I thank God my kids don't have this allergy.

YAB very U

That child could die if he injests nuts; of course it has to be banned. Most allergies are not so serious, but nut allergies can have incredibly dangerous reactions.

All forms of nuts are banned from DD's school for this very reason, and no nuts are used in school dinners, etc. There is at least one child AFAIK in DD's school currently with a nut allergy. It makes total sense to me and one which I would support whole heartedly.

Thanks for all your comments. Just needed to discuss etc.

This isn't about Nutella at all. This is about jealousy, that the school have taken more notice of his mother than they have of you or any of the other mothers. That would make me cross too, but at least admit it's jealousy. You know as well as I do it's not about the chocolate spread.

Post this in allergies if you want a more helpful discussion.

This is AIBU. You takes what you gets.

Shall I say it again?; I say this as a parent to a child with multiple allergies, just like the OP.

The school my dd's will be going from next year states in the school brochure that a child at the school has such a severe nut allergy that no nuts are allowed in the school.

For a fleeting moment I thought 'How inconvenient - my dd's love peanut butter' I then thought how good on the school - it's not the same as a food fad - having nuts or being near them could have fatal consequences for this child. It isn't going to kill my children by not having nut products at school!

Apologies eddiejo, its just that you never said that other children in the school had the same allergy in your original post, I can now see that it was unreasonable not to have banned it sooner

fair enough in senior school then I should think that children should be able to resist the temptation to touch/swap food.

But have you ever sat in on a lunchtime at a primary school? I have. I couldn't even begin to imagine how you would "police" a rule of not touching/sharing food - yes it's generally discouraged - but trying to actually stop them.....a completely different matter.

fgs no-one said that they were prepared to risk other people's lives.

But banning one product is not going to prevent this child from coming into contact with nuts.

the child needs to be educated about his alergies. Afaik there are generally not children who are so alergic that they cannot function in society, so clearly there is a way of this child managing his alergies that doesn't have to mean all other children have to manage them for him.

It sounds to me like the head just doesn't like nutela so has used this reason to ban it. Presumably she hasn't banned peanut butter?

Kbear when you put it like that it seems reasonable to make a small sacrifice in this case. But what about the citrus example which wannabe used. That can be just as dangerous, but would you ban fruit?
And what about all the foods which may contain nuts. It just doesn't seem practical.

If we're going to ban it at all maybe it would make more sense not to import nuts at all into the country. That would allow people with serious nut allergies to go to the shops, cinema, trains and buses.

YABU

You don't know the extent of the other children's allergies. It may be that they simply can't eat the offending item, but this boy can't be near it.

Also, if something is KNOWN to contain nuts by very nature, it is an unnecessary risk for the child, and not a vital foodstuff for school children.

Would you say I would be unreasonable if I insisted on wearing latex gloves around a person with a latex allergy, because I find the nitrile ones inconvenient? NO. You would say get those gloves off, there are alternatives.

Eddiejo, like you, I would never expect the whole school to change their eating habits to accommodate what my allergic child can or cannot eat.

I'm grateful when they ban a product that could kill her though.