To think at least a cup of tea should be provided if I travel 40 miles to a baptism?

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AIBU to think that if you have a baptism followed by the childs birthday party (instead of traditional feeding of the baptism guests), then you should at least provide some refreshments for the adults and not expect them to pay for their own cup of tea/lunch at the soft play birthday party where only the children are catered for.

We will be leaving home at 10am and the earliest we will get home is 4pm. We have paid for baptism card and present, birthday card and present, and dp got a new shirt which he wouldn't have done otherwise. Oh and petrol. And now we have to pay for anything we want to eat or drink at the 'party' after.

Grrrrr

Oh I wouldn't bother going just send DP and take your dc some where real nice close to home. I can't bear the noise of soft play parties. It sounds like it's going to be on going history between you put your pinny on and cross your arm now. Take flask of hot water and tea bags etc..in diffrent containers. That's wot me and my sis do!

So there is to be no 'tea' after the Baptism, just come and watch the baptism and f*k of back to your own home.
Then later in the day, the child is also having a birthday party. hmm, I see where your sil is coming from, she is not connecting the birthday party with the Baptism at all, in her head they are completely separate.
Oh well, some people are like that.
Strange you should have this dilemma, dd is to be confirmed on her birthday in the October half term (she will be 14), and I was wondering whether to do two separate do's!
I think it will just have to be tea and cake after the Confirmation for all those that came. Followed by a pizza and sleep over for half a dozen 14yr olds. oh joy.

How expensive can it be to hire a hall in a pub and put on your own food? When Tink was Dedicated our families did some food each and there was loads of food. I set some tables out for the children with party bags and art supplies. It was probably cheaper to have a party for 100 people (don't think we had that many) than it would be to hire out a Wacky.

I love my new nickname - Six Pot Burner!

Sorry six spot we are just deciding on a new kitchen, I must have had new hobs on the brain!!!

Tea and cake would have been fine.
Two lots of presents and all our sunday given over to this childs various events without even a cuppa on offer is not fine.

FJ - you could get a really nice book to go with the rosary beads - how about this one?
www.amazon.co.uk/Pray-Mary-Childs-Book-Rosary/dp/1933178388/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=122348974 9&sr=1-2

Perhaps she'll really enjoy it?

We had our daughter christened recently and had a buffet for all the guests afterwards as well as a tab behind the bar - I think that it's completely normal to provide food and drink but perhaps your SiL doesn't know that?