to want to slap the doctor for her annoying comment in the hospital

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took dd1 to the hospital drop in today cos she has a supisious rash and has been poorly.

dd is 21 months and the doctor asked if i had any other children and i said i had two ds's aged 4 and 10 weeks. she replied 'oh you have a 10 week old and a 20 month old you poor thing'

i was so pissed off i feel like the luckiest women in the world having my gorgeous children even with the small age gap and its not that much hard work
why is everyone so negative when you have 3 kids esp when you preg

i love it...say it how it is cod!! I agree!

If the toddler is ILL and you also have a small baby, then I don't think sympthy is insulting...of course you are lucky to have your 3 children, but it's no smal thing when one is thought ill enough to take to hospital and you have others to care for.

It WAS a bit clumsy as a comment, but YAdefinitleyBU to react with any talk of slapping. It's one of those things - no big deal. The main thing is that (presumably) your child was OK - if not i doubt you would be focussing on this throwaway comment.

YABU. She was just trying to make conversation and sympatihise with how hard it is having lots of LO's.

DH is a doctora and I find it really offensive that you should talk about hitting one though. Perhaps some are arrogant but it is really unacceptable to talk about things in violent terms like this.

I hope your LO is better soon.

I think she probably meant well, however it can be annoying when people automatically assume that, because you have young childen close in age, you must have dogs life, on the other hand, alot of poeple would find this very hard and exhausting, obviously you dont, which is great. I dont think she was suggesting you werent lucky to have 3 dc, you should just take it on the chin and say 'oh no quite the opposite, i throughly enjoy having them so close in age', dont take these things to heart.

You want to slap a doctor for being kind and understanding how hard it is having young children?

Are you for real?

I had this all the time from people when I had three dc's under 2 years old. I just used to laugh and say that it's not really THAT bad

Not once did I acknowledge it as a negative comment. To be honest, you response says more about you than the other woman

YABVU.

She was being nice. Maybe you dont find having 3 under 5 and being pregnant hard, but I think most people would. She was trying to be kind, and you have taken it badly.

YABVU and just looking for somethin-anything- to be offended by and complain about.

i have definitley thought "crickey!that must be hard" dont think i have ever said it

you have 3 children, aged 3 years, 21 months and 10 weeks and you are pregnant again??

Have not heard of breastfeeding, or other forms of birth control?

YABU, she was being sympathetic.

YANBU

I am going to slap mine today. He is clueless.

Can they not even PRETEND TO READ YOUR FILE before you enter.

GreenMonkies, my Grandmother breastfed before formula was invented and before people did early weaning. She had 10 children in 10 yrs so I don't think you can assume it's a reliable contraceptive for anyone. I always got periods back at 4 months.

And why do you assume her DC's were unplanned?

I didn't assume they were unplanned, I just suggested she might use contraception!

I know bf isn't a 100% reliable contraception, but is does help! Although, to be honest, I am amazed at anyone who is having sex when they have babies this young, I wasn't even thinking about it for months!

I don't think op was requesting opinions on her choice of family planning

Well, contraception implies that you don't want babies! Maybe the OP wanted to have her babies close together to get it all over and done with. And you don't have to have loads of sex, once is enough!

Just to join in with what the other monkeys are saying , it IS surely highly unusual to have so many kids so close together these days. Can't blame the doc for commenting on an unusual situation.

YABU, she was empathising with you. Good for you if you find having 3 under 4 a walk in the park. It not like she said "Blimey, a 3 yo, a 21 mo and a 10 wo, can you not keep your legs shut?" That would have deserved a slap.

I had my children very close to each other and it is hard work.

Many times people have said similar things to me about the small age gap and i see it as them been sympathetic. Never crossed my mind that this is a rude comment.

Are people on mn oversensitive or is me having thick skin?

YACertainlyInNoWayBU

I'm a secondary teacher and without fail when people (usually hairdressers) ask what I do and tell them, they say "Ah, little ones?" and I say "No, big ones", then they physically recoil and say "Oh GOD, I don't know how you do it"

So, instead of just getting used to people's (largely unfair and unreasonable) assumptions, shrugging my shoulders and smiling, I have taken to slapping them, pushing them to the ground, kicking chairs and tables over and smashing their windows.

That'll learn 'em.

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She couldn't have won. If she had said "God you must feel very blessed" you may have been one of those mothers who wishes they could say "Actually, no, I don't, it's really hard work and sometimes I feel like if I hear MUMMY one more time today I'm going to impale my own kidneys and stuff them in my ears"

its not even that smaller a gap

My antenatal friend now has a 10 month old and 2 week old twins!

Yep, do the math

YABU.

hope your dd1 is better though

Oh my gawd! Seriously pamelat? that's the closest gap I've ever heard of. Ouch!