DH forgot my birthday today AND he is out tonight?!?!?!?

[joster]

Been together 10 years (will he forget the 10th wedding anniversary next month?) and he announced yesterday that he was out tonight. I had to sit looking totally deflated for at least 3 or 4 minutes before he said OMG it's your Birthday tomorrow, isn't it?????? So, I am on my own all evening, I have no cards, no presents, haven't even been able to tell DS and DD that it is Mummy's birthday as have (reluctantly) agreed to postpone my birthday until FRIDAY by which time DH reckons he can have something SPECIAL organised, to involve cake etc with the kids and an evening out... not quite sure how he will pull this one off!

i DONT understand these threads

how cna he be so utterly crap

happy birthday

What a tosser! Get your mates rounde and have a curry delivered and few bottles of wine instead. He will feel very guilty when he comes in.

Happy Birthday!

Mates and curry sounds like a grand idea.

Why did'nt he cancel his night out? Why did you agree to postponing your birthday?
Happy Birthday for friday.

why dind you say NO THAT SI shIT
or tlak abotu you rbitrthdya at all today

Thanks!n Has been grovelling SO MUCH all day, even went to work late to make me breakfast and picked flowers on his walk with the dog first thing... emails and phone calls admitting to the aforementioned state of total crapness, but yes, still, how utterly ridiculous. I think even he cannot quite believe that he has managed to do this! Does mean, though, I will get a LOT MORE FUSS and big evening, money no object, so for that I can hang on a couple of days perhaps! Will string it out for all I can get, naturally.

Happy Birthday to you

as above (if possible to arrange)

my DH would forget every year unless I spent two weeks reminding him!

happy birthday
agree with cod that that is shite behaviour
why didn't you ask him to cancel his night out and phone a babysitter? I would have told the kids it's your b/day today as well

but can he not cancel night out?

Happy birthday!

I talk incessantly about my b'day for about a month before hand. Consequently, there is no way he could forget. Pays to advertise.

no excuse for the huge level of crapness from your DH.
drop massive hints next year.
why didn't you tell the children? you could have had a lovely birthday tea with them.
i can understand your upset and annoyance, but don't wallow in martydom.invite friends round, and ask them to bring wine and chocs.
have a great evening.

you don't think he may have organised a surprise maybe?

where is DH going tonight.
if it's anything social, (as opposed to huge business meeting, visiting the sick and needs etc) he should cancel it, surely?

happy birthday!

but honestly forget the 'sitting looking deflated' martyr shit you should just have said it was your birthday and told him you were going out.

enjoy friday

selfish bastard!

I would be livid

happy birthdya

DEFINITELY no surprise. Sadly his event is a business thing, he is hosting, hadn't put my bday in his calendar, so PA booked it up and it was so long ago that he just didn't really notice until saw this week's schedule... otherwise, absolutely obviously would have insisted!!! Got 30 people coming along, so as shite as it all is, even I knew nothing he could do.

I know how you feel. It was mine on Saturday. My husband gave me money last week, via daughter who was to take me on a pamper day. He then took me out to dinner so I have no compaint over him, just my two children. One got a sat nav from me and the other got a ring, birthday + graduation. Neither sent a card never mind anything else. One managed to phone first thing and wish happy birthday the other only managed a drunken text at 11pm after a 2nd reminder from his sister.

joster, i think your hubby is a lucky man tht you are being so reasonable - well done

This deserves AT LEAST

Decent meal out, with bottle of expensive wine

spontaneous shows of affection

massage on tap for so long as you see fit

definately a lay in on Saturday with breakfast in bed

the only time you have to take the dog out is for a romantic sunday morning stroll.

That is so sad, have a happy Birthday Hug.......It shouldn't have kept you from enjoying your day with the little ones though, you should have had a 'kiddies' birthday party with them.

do a Miss Havisham- get overdone up, set the table for a party, eat and drink it all yourself, wreck the joint and be sitting bedraggled covered in streamers for his arrival home

Happy birthday.

My DH forgot my wedding anniversary yesterday - I knew he would as he has been really stressed with business etc. I could have reminded him but decided it would be more fun (and more beneficial to me) to let him forget - he even booked a curry with his best mate for last night.

The look on his face yesterday morning when he saw a card and present waiting for him, watching the penny drop etc was priceless !

Much grovelling, bouquet of flowers delivered, curry with mate cancelled and babysitter hastily arranged.

I hope your DH makes up for it big time and don't forget all the times you can bring it up in future.

Happy Birthday

You are sounding much calmer and more understanding than you probably feel.

Ring his PA tomorrow and make her put your and dcs birthdays in the diary for next year

Enjoy your fake birthday on Friday and make sure you get spoilt rotten for at least the next MONTH!

I talk about my birthday for about a month beforehand-there is no chance of it being forgotten-same with anniversaries!

I talk about my birthday for about a month beforehand-there is no chance of it being forgotten-same with anniversaries!

Happy Birthday and I hope you enjoy friday!

I will be 30 on friday but dh has just made it clear that as we went away last weekend that was my birthday so don't be disapointed on friday! when I don't get anything (attention,dinner,gift) He even has a big job on friday so will be late home.

Still my mum has offered to cook dinner on sunday