background info: i take my sister (year 1) and ds (pre-school) to school every day and back - fair enough im going anyway so you would expect me too. i also take my sister to all her school parties as they are generally on a saturday when mum has pilates and i stay and supervise her. whenever i take ds out i have to take my sister too. mum NEVER babysits if i want to go out expects dp or me to babysit my sister if she wants to go out. i share the housework, share the cooking & am basically a surrogate mum to my sister.
my mum said to me earlier after i asked her if she would babysit for me and dp to go cinema on friday: "no, when you had a baby you had to give up being a teenager, you've got a child now,"
at which point i lost it and started shouting at her that she was a hypocrit and that i never went out and that she should have learnt by now how to be a mother and that even though im a mother im also her SISTER not her other mother because i've got a child to look after and schoolwork to do e.t.c. and alot of swearing and general hysteria.
i suspect im just pmting and that what i said was a bit uncalled for
but at the same time i think what i said is true