to think my friend's husband shouldn't tell me I'm clearing the table when I'm visiting?

[indiechick]

Stayed Sat/Sun with friends, had a lovely roast dinner on Sun and at the end of the meal, friend's husband says: Well I'll sort out pudding, then you (wife) and indiechick can clear away.
I'm really annoyed, I would have helped anyway, I'm not the type of guest who doesn't, but how rude. I wouldn't mind but I got up with all the kids, theirs and ours, gave them all breakfast, played with them for about two hours 'til parents woke up, spent both days wiping bottoms and noses of all children, looked after all of them in garden whilst friend and hubby cooked and emptied a rather full dustbin in the kitchen when no-one else seemed to be doing so. I wouldn't mind but he doesn't lift a finger when they come to visit.

You're not kidding - am rubbish with chilli!

he's a sexist wanker bastard, and should be castrated.

erm well he did cook the sunday roast

and he did the pud.

M&S puds are good, too, btw!

no, expat. she said no to me and the others making it a potluck affair, implied it was declasse. stupid snobby bitch. (she is a good cook, though.)

exactly mp. you people are weird.

I'd always offer to help but it's bad manners to tell someone what to do to help. Isn't it?

OP says they both cooked, mp. Anyway, once more and with feeling - rule of Hab - "asked" is fine, "told" is rude. so ner.

but if he told with a smile, or with an inflection that required assent, then it's hardly ordering everyone around like gordon fucking ramsey, is it? you freaking english freaks.

habs, you twit. i am Thanking You for the chocolate. you sent it to me. i got it on the day of the CS when i was not feeling super-hungry and dh took it home by mistake... fortunately he left the green and blacks spicey orange stuff. you're really okay for an english.

I like to cook, so I do sometimes refuse offers of people bringing food they've cooked, as I use having people over as an excuse to try out new things. But we don't really do precious in our house, and I think our guests are well aware of that...

I know you're thanking me, you daft bat. . dd is so Scottish it's not true. So weird. Except that she doesn't like potatoes. The child is half scottish and a quarter irish...

Oh, all right, you can come... You can, actually - open inv to the east coast whenever you're up for it. And I'll make you clean the oven.

oh, hab, fear not.

DD1 is such a Jock it sometimes utterly shocks me.

Don't you find it funny having a child who's so obviously a different nationality? It's cool, just weird. She has a v. pretty accent, mind - v cute.

OP - YABU. Among friends, anything goes. Now, obviously we don´t know the tone of voice used here, but assuming no malice then you are seeing way too much into this.

lol at your wee 'mind' there. you people are so desperate to be jocks.

invite accepted. dh's pal apparently has a flat in Elie or somewhere similar, we are gussying up to him in the worst way.

I've got such a bastardised accent/dialect, I've totally confused phoneticians... Oooh - we may be "up west" in a couple of weeks - will email you...

wot enid said

brilliant. sorry not to have met you last time.

Yes, that was tremendously inconvenient of you. I don't know what you can have been thinking.

mostly 'ow ow ow, stop rummaging about in my uterus'.

[in literal mood this evening]

'Don't you find it funny having a child who's so obviously a different nationality? It's cool, just weird. She has a v. pretty accent, mind - v cute.'

No. I guess it's because it's not uncommon in the US at all. My dad's parents were both foreign (Mexican). My mother's mother was French.

At school, many, many people come from all over and don't speak English or don't speak English at home.

It doesn't seem at all unusual. Different.

And they do have such pretty accents, the girls.

Very much a gentle West Highland voice.