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to expect to not be picked apart at a dinner we were invited to???

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BBeingpatient · 27/09/2008 12:13

ok so i dont think i am but always best to get more perspectives...

last night DP and I went for dinner at our friends, To give background, DP was best man at there wedding, we are god parents to there child....anyway we get there and female friend(FF) in terrible mood, ignores us really awkward, however shes moody anyway, it passes we sit down to dinner. FF ask how my new job is going stating hers is rubbish as she hasnt "enogh prospects" i dont want to brag and say yeah i love it leave it at that. She then asks Whether DP and i still plan to have a baby soon...

I say yes, will be TTC in jan-ish...there begins the rant- i here after get told that:
-if we arent married we shouldt have children
-that our relationship probably isnt strong enough for us to have kids, and thats why weve chosen not to marry
-that our area is too rough to bring up children and our garden to small
-that we are irresponsible to have kids cos we have cats?!

understandably at this point but FF's husband is DPs close friend so bite tongue but wound up whole way home as:

  • cost us a fortune to get there and back
-we took an offering (as you do) -i have a house they have a flat so dont even have a garden?!?! -DP and i have been together longer than they have known each other -to me marriage is just a piece of paper

I should also mention she finds my choice that i intend to only return to work part-time abhorrent, as she chooses to leave her daughter in childcare as "she deserves a career for going through childbirth" WTF!!!
I havent voiced my own opinion on her choices wrt childcare as i am adult enough to know you shouldnt judge others but honestly so

she rounded off the evening by saying they want us to go away with them for four days...so we can share the childcare, as the hol would be themepark based!!!(as if!!)

Am i being over-sensitive??

OP posts:
callmeovercautious · 27/09/2008 23:37

Life is too short to be friends with people who judge you publically. Everyone talks behind other peoples backs to some extent but bitching to your face is just rude. Tell them no thanks the next time they ask to see you.

We no longer see the Man DH was best man to as his wife is a nightmare. DH emailed to say we were expecting DD and we heard nothing to acknowledge it, not even after they knew she had arrived, yet they make out we are the bad ones as we did not want to travel to Canada with them when I was PG

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