to expect dp to phone dd at least once a day when he is away on holiday?

[lilymolly]

Was on other thread yesterday asking if it was right to be bitter about dp going away to magaluf for 5 days leaving me (pregnant) and dd 2.7- General conscenus was he was ok to go, but that I should make sure I get some time away too. Fair point

Any how- he went away Thursday am- and has not rang home at all to either speak to me or dd

Its really made me upset and I am trying hard not to cry.
FFS he has a mobile phone and its not as though its difficult to call from a pay phone.

Really Bramshott? How do you know?
My son is 3. Since he was younger than 2 he has wanted to speak to his dad when he was away (he travels abroad for work a lot). He would actively ask for it, and cry if he couldnt.
The point is that OPS dd is upset and wants to talk to her daddy. She cant see him, she wants to hear his voice and be reassured.

I think going off on hold with his pals whilst you are looking after dd and are pg entitles you to some TLC over the phone.

Even if you don't normally speak every day when at work this is different.

He should be sucking up a wee bit no?

It could be that his mobile phone doesn't work over there.

DH went to Mallorca last weekend for 4 days and only rang me once, from his mate's phone.

Chill.

Mobile def working btw
Will chill going to bed as knackered and dd will be up at 6am
Night night

we will wait and see if he calls tomorrow

It is horrible when the hormones are raging Dp had to go away twice whilst i was pregnant - both times to Japan. I was around 20 weeks the first time and 36 weeks the second time. He ended up having to fly home early as thought baby was coming! He did call home regularly but not to speak to ds1, partly because of the time difference and also because there wasnt any need in our opinion. Ds1 did speak to him at weekends and also via email.

Dp has also gone away on a short work break (was a trip to ireland for a piss up), he sent me texts (which were funny as he was very very drunk and the predictive text got better of him) and didnt actually call.

He has also just been awa for another 2 week stint in Japan and called daily but again not to speak to kids necerssarily (sp).

Regarding the OP - i am not sure you are being reasonable. Yes i think he should call you and remember you are hormonal etc but not sure he should be calling your dd. At 2.7 years old the telephone conversational ability of that age is pretty poor and i dont think they get the concept that they cant see the person they are talking to. I als othink your dd may be picking up on your upset of daddy not calling and if you were laid back (hard i know esp when preg) she might be chilled too.

My husband is away to at the moment, went Thursday called to let me know he had arrived ok etc and has phoned each day since. We dont usually phone eachother back at home on a daily basis though, and we didnt discuss this arrangement before he went just a natural desire to chat to eachother!!! I would like to say after chatting to our dd aged 3 she got a bit upset and asked him to come home, so he now phones after she is in bed! As to what you can do about it, not a lot I suppose..lets face it he's being totally selfish but is this what you would expect from him??

Oh lilymolly, I really feel for you. Your dp is being exceptionally selfish imo! Even if his mobile is playing up, foreign countries do have phone-boxes! It really baffles me how the "saint-wives" think you should just leave him be, it's fine - personally I'd give him hell!!! He's sparing no thought for you whatsoever.

Ah, see, I can accept the 'too busy to call' thing. But saying, several times, 'I'll call you later' and then not calling, particularly when it means your DD is let down, isn't ok.

Welll we spoke today
he rang twice

I gave him hell and he is back tomorrow and I am planning on letting him do everything for dd

Thanks for advice

Anyone fancy a weekend away in New York with me

Well I'm glad he rang you - twice!!! Not that he's feeling guilty or anything . Doing everything for your dd tomorrow will certainly sober him up if nothing else, think you at least deserve a day of relaxation! All the best for tomorrow x