to be glad that I said 'what a load of old rubbish' to the perfectly nice old lady in the butchers?

[PoorOldEnid]

when she said 'oh three girls. well I always say boys hug you because they love you and girls hug you because they want something'

she was taken aback

but the butcher winked at me when I paid

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I'd have said "there are those who say that wisdom comes with age but so does senility"

cod.. I hate to ask this but do you attract loons ?

yanbu. Rude cow (her, not you)

Have to disagree with her there.. my dh hugs me when he wants something, my dd hugs me cos she loves me...

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What a miserable old moo. I bet she's someone's nightmare MIL.

sudden horrible thought that it could be my mil...

lolol at one died

what about ' a daughter for life, but a son til he gets a wife' or whatever shite saying it is....

I think that the "three boys" comment is actually very sad. It's not very tactful, but she probably blurted it out because she has never got over the loss (and I can't imagine that she was treated very sensitively at the time either).

ll norty!

She was probably just regurgitating the crap she'd heard as she grew up and had never really thought about what the statement means

Don,t think you were unreasonable - what had prompted her to say it? was your dd displaying affection?

LOL at these!

'one died' what are you supposed to say to that??

Well, I have to say that's mostly true of my dc.

But then I would never say that to someone as it's probably just how mine are.

It wasn't my mother was it?

She was really cross that I had sons, she wanted me to experience daughters, who she claims are manipulative, spiteful, unaffectionate and cruel.

It wasn't much fun being her daughter, especially as she had a son 5 years after having me.

Truth be told, it's affected my sister worse, as she has repressed any sign of femininity in order to not be as 'irritating' as I was. My sister actually isn't gay, but I think she would like to be male.

My MIL had 3 boys and one died....... If it was her, you have my deepest sympathy.

Totally StatFrosty - a now ex friend would do this when ds was first born and she'd invite herself to tea and biscuits as I was a captive audience.

taking ds from me to 'free' me to put kettle on... 'how could anyone hurt em'

Me (seething) 'Hmm just doesn't bear thinking about does it???!!!'

My MIL says " how can anyone hurt em?" whenever she sees my DS. It is such a weird thing to say - especially coming from my MIL who used to hit DH with her shoes when he was small

And in answer to the OP- YANBU, well done for saying it! Might make the opinionated bugger think twice next time!

My mother says that as well "how could anyone be bad to them?" talking about babies

I usually get "oh you've got your hands full" or "oh your poor husband!" when old dears see the 3 DDs.