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To not want to buy DS a 'smart' outfit for a wedding

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 21:41

Am I embarrassingly out of touch to suggest that he could just wear a shirt with dark jeans and trainers that look like shoes?

I don't want to waste money on an outfit that he won't wear again, and it will be hard enough to coax him out of football shirts for one day, let alone trying to get more wear out it another time.

He's 6 btw.

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StewieGriffinsMom · 24/09/2008 21:43

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MaureenMLove · 24/09/2008 21:44

I was going to suggest new jeans and a shirt from Asda before I opened the thread! So either its perfectly acceptable or I'm out of touch too!

Lubyloo · 24/09/2008 21:44

I think that would be fine. He's a child - I hate seeing children trussed up in little suits and ties.

LilRedWG · 24/09/2008 21:45

Hmm - school trousers and shirt for the daytime and jeans for the evening if he wants to change.

snickersnack · 24/09/2008 21:45

Suits on boys are vile, as far as I'm concerned. Dark jeans and a shirt sound fine and I wouldn't flinch at trainers. What about a tank top over the top to smarten it up a bit?

Wilkiepedia · 24/09/2008 21:46

Depends on if day do or night do

Personally I think jeans are a total no-no, child or no child. Shirt, trousers and shoes - doesn't need to be anything fancy but no to jeans

If a night do then fine

SqueakyPop · 24/09/2008 21:47

When we had younger boys at weddings, we went for bermuda shorts with long socks, and long sleeved button down shirts. They looked really smart, and all the clothes could easily be recycled into other outfits.

SqueakyPop · 24/09/2008 21:47

When we had younger boys at weddings, we went for bermuda shorts with long socks, and long sleeved button down shirts. They looked really smart, and all the clothes could easily be recycled into other outfits.

saint2shoes · 24/09/2008 21:48

think jeans and trainers are wrong imo. school trousers would be better.

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 21:52

I'm not going to the wedding. Ex-p is taking him. As far as I know it's a low key affair, but he's going to the registry office and I think the reception is a local restaurant.

Ex-p asked the bride if she would mind DS wearing smart/casual clothes as neither of us can afford an outfit for just one occasion. She turned her nose up and just said "what about the photos?" So I presume that she will be pissed off if he turns up in anything other than trousers, shirt and tie and proper shoes. Actually, it's the shoes that piss me off the most. DS makes the biggest fuss about shopping for footwear and he needs new trainers anyway, so I thought I could get away with a dual purpose pair.

I WILL buy him an outfit that she approves of because it's her day and all that. Just wondered whether I was being ridiculous about it.

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snorkle · 24/09/2008 21:53

A lot depends on the wedding, but generally I'd say no to both trainers and jeans. School shoes & trousers with a nice shirt as a minimum unless it's an unusually relaxed affair.

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 21:53

Ds will be proper pissed off if I make him wear his school uniform on a Saturday. He's just realised that it's not cool

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Upwind · 24/09/2008 21:55

does he not have school shoes and trousers he could wear with a cheap shirt?

Upwind · 24/09/2008 21:56

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LyraSilvertongue · 24/09/2008 21:56

Can't he wear his school shoes?
I think you'd probably get away with black jeans and a shirt.

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 21:57

I'd have a real job getting him to wear his uniform upwind.

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 21:59

His school shoes already look crap after only 2 weeks of wear. I don't think he would wear them anyway.

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berolina · 24/09/2008 22:02

I would hate to think that anyone had spent money they couldn't afford just to look 'smart' in my wedding photos. And suits and ties are vile on small boys.

H&M sometimes have nice, cheap white shirts with round collars. School trousers (you're the parent, he'll have to lump it) and shoes.

WendyWeber · 24/09/2008 22:07

Tell him if he doesn't wear his school uniform he'll have to wear this.

That should make him reconsider

Failing that, would he wear eg a pair of chinos with his school shoes? (My boys' school trousers have always been very basic & looked scruffy from day 1)

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 22:13

Thanks everyone. TBH, I'm more pissed off with ex-p as he promised he would sort DS's outfit and pay for it. The wedding is on Saturday and surprise, surprise he's not got round to it. So, I'll be dragging a bored 6 year old round shoe shops tomorrow evening.

School shoes are not really an option because they look totally shit. His trousers aren't too bad, but I don't really want him to wear them. I might just look out for a pair of trousers (or light fabric jeans) that can be dressed down with trainers, so that he'll be able to wear them again. I'll get him a shirt, but it will probably be a short sleeved one and I won't be getting a tie.

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 22:17

X posts WW. I think that's the sort of thing the bride is expecting

Are chinos always in the beige colour? If so, then no he won't. Even if he did they'd be filthy very quickly as he will find some grass to skid on or a hill to roll down. His school trousers aren't too bad, but yeah, they just look like school uniform so not ideal.

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WendyWeber · 24/09/2008 22:24

I was looking at Next who have nothing in smart casual - about 200 different tatty blue jeans & sod all else - but do have some cord jeans, in dark blue, brown & beige (I think). You might get away with those?

DS2 is 15 now but when he was younger I could usually get some presentable trousers from Matalan - I would try there, & Tesco, & Asda, before trailing round town centres (they all do shoes too )

BEAUTlFUL · 24/09/2008 22:28

Bhs is sooo cheap for smart clothes.

Can you not just polish his shoes? Have you got any of that stuff that covers up scuff-marks?

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PrimroseHall · 24/09/2008 22:31

Cord jeans were the sort of thing I was initially thinking of. I was then going to get a pair of lace up navy blue trainers (they are smart though) and get him a short sleeved shirt. I thought that sounded ok. Apparantly not.

I'll print out that pic and tell DS that I've got it at home and he'll have to wear it unless we find something else tomorrow night. That should keep him in line

I'm off for a bath now and then I'll have a look on the web.

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chipmonkey · 24/09/2008 22:31

Primrose, just give xp an invoice for the bloody outfit when he turns up to collect him! Convenient for him to have forgotten!

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