To detest ALL ex-policemen now ?

[theultimatethreadkiller]

As many people will remember, my FIL is an ex-copper and we don't get on at all.
Today I had a run in with another ex-policeman, who shouted at me that I wasn't fit to be a parent and that he would find out where I lived and have my child taken off me.
This was in front of my child.

Why did he say that?

Erm what prompted the 'run-in' ?

I don't think you are unreasonable to hate this particular ex-copper, but it's a bit of a stretch to hate all of them.

without saying why the officer said that to you, i will say that yes, yabu

i had a bit of a road rage incident yesterday, i now hate all drivers.

thik you can see now how silly that is. of course it would be unreasonable.

why did he say that to you though? i hope your DC is ok.

Ok, Freckle, so maybe I am being a wee bit unreasonable.
Well, I was walking my mum's dog, who growled at the man as he walked past me. Ok, I know the dog shouldn't growl, so please don't slate me for that. I apologised profusely.
He quite rightly could be angry for that, but to shout at me, use abusive language and be threatening in front of a 2 year old isn't on, surely.

YTou know that YABU

I was so shocked - I've just finished a course of counselling for PND and feel like the world's worst mother most of the time, but to have a stranger say it isn't nice.

He is a nutter. Thank goodness he's an ex policeman - perhaps that's why!

To threaten to have your children taken away from you because your mum's dog growled at him indicates that he may be rather deranged. Perfectly reasonable to hate him for that.

Thanks, Cornsilk.
I told a friend as soon as I got home (once I stopped sobbing) and she said the same.

Thanks, Freckle. The man's wife was with him, and she was obviously embarrassed and kept trying to het him to carry on walking.

ditto what fio said

he is a fruit bar obviously. but thankfully he doesn't represent the thinking of ALl policemen, ex or otherwise.

fio put it much more elegantly than I could

Thanks, ladies. Ok so I over-reacted at the hating all policemen bit. I just needed to get it off my chest. Feel a bit better already. I know I'll cry again when DH gets home.

My neighbours dog has mood swings.
Sometimes she'll let me stroke her, sometimes she growls at me, but she never bites.
Maybe that's why he's an ex-copper - obviously got the wrong attitude. Some people think they can say whatever they like without considering other peoples feelings.
Hope you and your DC are ok now.

I would have said 'Oh! s/he's usually such a good judge of character!

Excellent comment, Solo. I shall remember that one.
I'm not going to let it stop me walking the dog. I'm going to go out at the same time today, and if I see him again I shall say 'well of course the dog doesn't like you, you shouted at me yesterday'.

Maybe the wife just told him she was leaving him for his old boss at the station!! He was obviously just looking for an excuse to vent his frustrations at someone...or maybe he had a bad experience at the police dog unit!!

He shouted at you that you were a bad mother and he was going to get your kids taken away because your dog growled at him

Do you know this guy?

I find it hard to believe that someone would just say that for no reason. (Not saying you're a bad parent but maybe there is more to this)

No, I have never seen him before. There is no more to this other than what I have said.

How do you know he is an ex-policeman then?

How do you know that he's ex police? Did he tell you (in which case he's probably not)?

Hey, and dogs growl sometimes, esp. if they smell something they don't like about a person (dogs can be very good judges of personality), it's part of being a dog.

Forget it, move on.