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To detest ALL ex-policemen now ?

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theultimatethreadkiller · 24/09/2008 18:08

As many people will remember, my FIL is an ex-copper and we don't get on at all.
Today I had a run in with another ex-policeman, who shouted at me that I wasn't fit to be a parent and that he would find out where I lived and have my child taken off me.
This was in front of my child.

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 10:27

Yes, he said he was an ex-policeman, as if that made him some kind of uber-being.

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VictorianSqualor · 25/09/2008 10:30

He's probably talking shit.

He must be absolutely doolally tat to have just stopped in the street and said you're a bad mother, he's an ex-policeman and he is going to get your children taken off you. Did you argue back at all?

I'd be inclined to report him for being so aggressive if you were just standing there taking all this. It's not like it was just one comment from what you're saying.

sadandscared · 25/09/2008 10:30

Your dog sounds cleverer and a better judge of character than him .
It hit a raw nerve with you because of the PND. I know its hard but don't let the silly tosser get to you. You're clearly not a bad mother - one of your main concerns was that he'd been horrible in front of your LO.
Don't hate all police though - there are quite a lot of really nice ones out there.

cory · 25/09/2008 10:32

Very likely he is an ex-policeman because he has nervous or mental health problems.

FioFio · 25/09/2008 10:34

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 10:36

Yes, VS, he went on and on for a good 5 minutes. I was asking him to stop as he my son (nearly 2) was with me. I would have been a lot more verbal if I hadn't been with my little boy. I said to him at one point, 'So now you are criticising my parenting?', to which his wife tried to get him to go and that's when he went off on one about me being a mother.
Sadandscared, you are right. It hit a very raw nerve.
Lol, Cory! That's was DH said. He father is an ex-policeman and is a fruitloop.

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ajandjjmum · 25/09/2008 10:36

Say 'I can understand why it's ex' - what were you thrown out for?

solo · 25/09/2008 13:18

Nice one ajandjjmum!!!

DaphneMoon · 25/09/2008 13:32

Still don't know why he called you a bad parent for having a dog that growled. Its a bit odd to say the least. My BIL is a policeman and he is lovely and a credit to the police force. However, some do get a big for their boots even when they have left the force. Can you not report him to the police for unreasonable behaviour?

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 14:42

My mum says I should report him, but I don't know who he is. I shall be walking the dog again this afternoon, so maybe I shall have the pleasure of seeing him again.
I think he was going along the route of saying I shouldn't have a dog (that doesn't like him?) when I have a child, so that must make me a bad parent.

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 14:51

I'm getting really nervous at the thought of going out with the dog in a bit.

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/09/2008 15:02

theultimatethreadkiller the dog was probably protecting your son anyway. My parents were dog sitting their old dog recently, Dad had Tink on his lap and they were messing around, he said "I'm going to smack that bum" Rosie was up and there with a warning to him, she wouldn't not watch them together then! She's an older boxer who is very placid, she belongs to a CM now and lets the kids walk all over her but when it comes to protecting her own I wouldn't want to mess with her, I've seen her! BTW Mum's a Child Protection Social Worker

The idiot was trying to scare you and make him feel better about himself.

totalmisfit · 25/09/2008 15:23

what a wuss to go so over the top about a dog growling!

i'm 5ft 1 and have a 2.6 yr old dd and dogs seem to growl at us on a daily basis, luckily i am better able to handle such a terrifying event than the silly man in question.

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 15:42

Well we are back from our stroll (the dog is getting on a bit and can't manage a long one anymore) and it passed without incident I had my phone with me in case I saw him again - I was going to take a photo of him
Thanks for all the reassurance. I was really shaken up yesterday.

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arthursmum · 25/09/2008 16:26

Poor you, perhaps if you see him again you could very calmly respond with the words "You may be an ex-policeman but I am a current solicitor and if you continue to threaten and abuse me you will be seeing the inside of a police station again, but from a very different point of view." Then train the dog to eat him. Nasty bit of goods.

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 16:33

Lol arthursmum

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/09/2008 16:52

People have speculated on why he may be "ex" but don't you think it's worrying that a policeman could be scared of dogs? Maybe that had more to do with it. Can you imagine if he had to break up a gang with a dog?

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theultimatethreadkiller · 25/09/2008 17:39

It actually would have been quite amusing if he had come around to my house as I have another dog too I doubt if he'd have wanted to come in!

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memoo · 25/09/2008 18:23

How do you know the guy who shouted at you is an ex-policeman??

memoo · 25/09/2008 18:24

Sorry, just read the thread properly and you already answered that

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