To get really pissed off with friends who don't reply to text mesages?

[incredulous]

Oooo! It really gets my goat! I have sent a few friends from work a text to see if they fancy getting together for a meal out (I'm cuurently on mat leave). I sent the txt FRIDAY and only 2 out of the 4 of them have replied, and the 2 that did reply took 3 days to do so!!! It realy makes me cross, and makes me feel quite worthless tbh, as if I'm not important.

I also have other friends who whenver I am with them have their phone on them constantly, and always reply to texts etc, yet when I text them, they take hours or even day sto reply.

AIBU to think this is just downright rude, esp when the text asks a question that demands an answer!!

if i'm organising something like that, i'd send a group email rather than separate texts. then 'reply to all' makes the arrangements a joint responsibility. and if i don't hear from a person... i ring them.

dd2 has a cold, bah. we're off to the hosp for a paed app this afternoon. bricking it. i put photos on my profile if you want to see her btw.

I'm glad it's not just me who is bad at replying

I never reply promptly to texts

I assume if people text they are not bothered whether I reply immediately or not

people who want an instant reply should PHONE!

you should definitely ring them and I think you are being a tad unreasonable tbh.

Aitch - Your DDs are gorgeous.

Gorgeous! They both are. Have you managed to BF this time round? I moved house so haven't been online for a while and have no clue as to how it all went after she was born.

(Tis VS BTW)

thanks. maybe i am... hard to know. i'm trying on the bfing front, that's for sure. but have appointment with paed consult this afternoon so will expect telling-off if dd2 hasn't piled on weight.

It really gets my goat when I don't get replies from texts, especially ones that blatantly require an answer. It takes a minute or two to reply. I agree with the OP and think that YANBU. It is especially annoying when you know that the person is a real mobileaholic and looks at their phone regularly.

YANBU. I agree - makes me feel worthless.

Actually I hate texting. I am one of those people who takes ages to answer texts too. Usually cos I get caught up with other things or my battery has run down and I forget to charge it. I much prefer the landline for making dates. Much easier too. ANd I think people who can only text friends to ask how they are or make plans are actually a little bit inconsiderate themselves. Only takes 2 minutes to phone someone yet is much more personal.

But surely your friends know that about you and would ring you instead?

I am total crap at returning texts and emails. It doesn't imply anything about how I feel about my friends - I love them all dearly and wish I could see them more! It's just one of those things I think I will do later when I have more time, or because it involves e.g. checking a diary. YANBU but please don't think it means they don't like you!

Your thread has at least inspired me to sit down and 'tackle my correspondences'. (Maybe that's why it takes me a while, I always envisage gathering my skirts and sitting down with quill and sealing wax.) Thanks!

OMa, you must have more of a social life than me! I have no need for a diary

I find it rude when people bombard me with texts and expect replies quickly. Why should I drop what I am doing and reply to a non-urgent question? To reply while with someone else is just rude.

Texts are a pain teh arse IMO. They are easily forgotten about too. If you need an answer to something call. Only use texts for breezy updates or unimportant messages.

I hate texts, i onl;y have a mobile coz DH forces me too for when i go on trips in the
car

If someone wants to an answer just use the phone.

"Thing is - all these responses; i get sidetracked/mean to then forget/can't be arsed to fiddle about do all pretty much amount to that the sender isn't that important."

Out of those I'd only agree with your comments about "can't be arsed fiddling around".

I tend seem to always get texts when I'm in the middle of doing something else, usually I will remember (at some point) to reply - but I have a dreadful memory for things like that - so I do often get sidetracked or forget.

I would pick up the phone and call if I didn't get so bloody jittery about making phonecalls.......I'd rather send a text/email/wait until I see the person than pick up the phone and call.

I don't like to receive texts. I don't like to send texts. And I don't switch on my phone for days. I have every intention to respond to texts when I receive them, but they can get lost in the melee of life if I don't have the opportunity to reply right away. I do find it a hassle to work those tiny buttons.

With email, I have a nice keyboard, it sits in my inbox so at least I get a reminder there. If I don't respond immediately to a text, I don't check my phone inbox. For invitations to go out, I have to do rain checks and the very fact I have to do so will mean it is likely to slip my mind if sent by text.

I would never choose text over an email as a mode of communication. If I receive lots of texts from one person, I sometimes respond with email to give them the hint.

Of course, by phoning, you get an immediate answer.

I am of an older generation.

YABU
I am too busy to sit and text. I rarely reply straight away. If people want something that demands an answer, they call me. If it is not important, they text. Texts are "less valid".

Unless the text is obviously one that warrants an immediate reply, then I hardly ever text back.

and if it for one asking if I want to go out/meet up, then I leave it for days sometimes while I figure out if I CAN go out/meet up.

If I receive a text while out and away from diary/calender, then obviously I won;t know until I get home if I can go, so wait until then, and then forget for a few days.....

YABU. It is not rude, it is life!

Sorry but I disagree with 'only takes 2 mins to phone', as I said, we all have young kids. I don't like to phone in case baby asleep or dinner time etc etc. It doesn't take 2 mins, they then have to find their diary, see what dates we can both do etc etc.

Another fine example from last night....

My friend's text (haven't seen her for weeks)
"hiya, hope you are all well? what time is the soft play session on in town this friday?"

Me: "hiya, all well here thanks. Soft play is 1:30pm on Friday. How are you all? DS OK now after his health scare?"

......nothing

So basically, she got the info she wanted off me and that was that.

you see it's not just about arranging dates. And, she instigated that text at 10pm last night, not really the time to phone for a chat IMO.

And also, I'm not talking about wanting an immediate response, I would never expect someone to 'drop everything' to reply, but I do feel that from Friday to now Weds is taking the piss a bit, NO?

incredulous: "How are you all? DS OK now after his health scare?" - a bit surprised you would put that in a text and expect a response. It expresses polite interest, but it is not a straight 'yes' or 'no' answer. I draw the line at social niceties by text. Text is purely practical. I will update on the social side when we next meet up.

I imagine teenagers or young adults would use text more like email. Adults don't have the time or inclination.