...well clearly I AM NOT but dh is (in my humble opinion), please agree with me here

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dd1 is 6 next month

we emigrate to Australia about 2 weeks after her birthday

she wants to invite about 20 people to her party "as I have lots of friends this year Mummy" (a lie but who am I to tell her otherwise...). She had 10 last year.

dh says NO, 10ish like last year "as otherwise we will have too much crap to take with us" (he does have a point here as our shippers will have gone)

I think he is being a big bad meany bollocks and I want to let her have the full amount as it is kind of a leaving party too

whaddaya think?

He's being a meanie.

Do you have friends out there already? If people do bring presents for your DD you can parcel them up and post them surface mail.

Definitely no seeds or anything made with straw, shells, sand etc. They will be destroyed on arrival.

Can you schedule the party so that it takes place before your shipment leaves?

let her have the party tell people if they do wish to buy presents could they buy sweets/comics/books that she can have on the plane.

I'm with you too
poor dd
mean dh

YANBU...Your partner is a meany bollocks. Let your dd have lots of friends to her leaving/birthday party. Ask parents to keep gifts small, if possible, as you'll be shipping them abroad and just see what comes.

Anything too unwieldly, conveniently leave it for Oxfam/at grandmas, whatever happens to be best.

Agree Wickedwaterwitch.. boo, hiss for dh! He's clearly practising for the panto season baddie!