Being angry with other people's children and letting them know it - is this unreasonable or not?

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I have been pondering this all day.

I picked up DD from a friend's house, there were several other children there. There was a bit of horseplay and something belonging to host's mum got broken. The two girls who did it didn't own up but ran out to play in the garden. When host mum saw what had happened she was very upset (it was something precious to her that had got broken). She asked DD what had happened, DD told her, she went out and had a word with the other two girls along the lines of "I'm upset you didn't tell me you'd broken this".

Then today she phoned the mums at work and let them know what had happened. One of the mums was very apologetic, the other one got upset!

I can't work out whether this is OTT or not? I kind of think it isn't and feel very sad for my friend, as now she thinks she has made enemies of these other two mums.

WWYD in this situation? The children concerned are all 7 btw.

Pants! What I meant to say was I'd have spoken to the children, not the mums.

Okay, I clearly need some sleep!

I wouldn't have rung the parents - would have spoken with the children and asked them to apologise and considered it dealt with.

I were the parent of the child who had misbehaved and been called I would prefer it not to be whilst at work BUT I wouldn't be in a huff about it in the slightest, nor let it affect my friendship with the person who rang.

I think your friend is being oversensitive about it, and if any of the other mums were a bit brusque it was probably because they were trying to deal with something important at work.