To want to strangle DD's so-called friend

[StellaDallas]

who told her today she wasn't invited to her birthday party because she could only have six people. She then went on to name them and a couple are girls she hardly knows.
She will be round here in the morning to walk to school with DD looking as if butter wouldn't melt in her mouth, while DD cried herself to sleep.
I could understand if she was 6, but she is 12 fgs. She knows she is being cruel.
I couldn't help it, I told DD I thought her friend was being mean.
So shoot me.

[ajandjjmum]

OK - so it may be childish - but can you and Y's mum arrange a few outings for just the two of them, to cement their friendship? Then maybe they will realise that they can have fun together without the manipulator!!

[HarleyQuinn]

I agree with ajandjjmum, thats a great idea
perhaps invite her other friends from her class to an outing somewhere so your DD can forget about the party.

[smartiejake]

Oh God. some girls are just horrid aren't they. If you really can't have a party without leaving someone out the child should not be rubbing her nose in it- you are right it is downright mean.

Why is it that some girls seem to have this mystical power over others?

My DD (12)was the only one out of 16 girls in her school year not to have been invited to a girls party last week (she sounds just like your dds toxic friend). SHe shrugged it off but I could tell she was upset.

Fortunately for her she has a wide circle of friends, not just from school and managed to invite one of them over when the party was on.

She is slowly learning that girls like this are not worth bothering with or getting upset over but it has been a long haul for her to get to this point. There were quite a few incidences like this at junior school and it used to break my heart.

I agree with other posters- find a girl not going to the party and take them out for a fabulous treat.

[OrmIrian]

Ouch! It's a girl thing. Some of them seem to glory in their power to hurt.

[smartiejake]

OHH deegward I know what you mean.

I find it very hard to keep my mouth shut in these circumstances. I have actually made the mistake of getting involved by making comments to girls like these but unfortunately it often makes the situation worse!

At christmas my dd was bombarded by nasty text and msn messages from this girl in her class. We got so fed up with it that DH sent her a text threatening to tell the school (where it is a suspendable offence) and her parents.

Her father rang back later in the day screaming and shouting about how dare we threaten his darling dd. Obviously she has him wrapped round his little finger. No wonder she was such a manipulative little bitch.

[ethanchristopher]

thats harsh!

i was made to invite my bloody class bully to make sure she wasnt left out

i say if she wants someone to walk to school with in the morning she can dam well invite her to her party!