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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to be fuming that dd was not allowed a lollipop at nursey?

97 replies

mummytoasweetypie · 03/09/2008 18:20

My dd goes to a private nursery 2 days per week and has for almost 3 yrs. Recently she has taken a few sweets in her snack box to share with her friend. they have came home with her and she told me she wasn't allowed them at nursery. I was never given an adequate explanation for this. today she took in a lollipop for herself and my friends dd. I made clear to the manager/owner and keyworker that they were for after lunch and teeth had to be brushed afterwards. No problems I was told. Then when I collected dd she told me she still had her lolly and was told to have it in the car on the way home I'm really cross about this.

I've discussed with the nursery healthy eating before. My dd has a very healthy diet with the occasional lollipop. I think it is my business what she has unless they are concerned she has an inadequate diet and they should speak to me about it if they do. I pay them a lot of money to look after my daughter and I expect them to discuss issues with me not rely on a preschooler to give me information.

I've written a letter of complaint but not sure whether to send it as it may be too strong but I'm just fed up by the fact they made out it was ok to me then refused to let dd have her lolly.

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muggglewump · 03/09/2008 18:40

YABU
She doesn't need to have the lolly at nursery and giving her more to share is worse.
Are you real?

WigWamBam · 03/09/2008 18:40

Sweets aren't usually allowed in any nurseries or schools.

(a) other children don't understand why they can't have one too.

(b) most schools/nurseries have healthy eating policies, and ask that parents stick within their guidelines.

(c) boiled sweets and lollipops are a choking hazard and it is unfair to put that extra risk onto both your child and the staff.

(d) staff shouldn't have to be responsible for cleaning your daughter's teeth. Teeth-cleaning isn't a school activity.

(e) sharing of food from lunchboxes is generally not allowed.

(f) she will find it hard to go from nursery to school if she gets into the habit of having sweets as part of her nursery lunchbox, but is forbidden them (as she will be) at school.

Give her sweets at home as part of her balanced diet. No-one would have an issue with that. But you are being unbelievably unreasonable to go against their instructions and expect her to have them at school.

catweazle · 03/09/2008 18:40

Well I'd be fuming if my child was given a lollipop (esp one of those chubba chups ones) at nursery.

Some of the kids bring in sweets when it's their birthday but the sweets come home in her bag unopened so we get to choose if/ when she eats them.

Can you imagine the uproar of the other kids in the room watching 2 kids eating sweets in front of them.

YABVU

puffling · 03/09/2008 18:41

I don't believe you lollipop mum.

muggglewump · 03/09/2008 18:45

I've just re-read and I find this interesting: "My dd has a very healthy diet with the occasional lollipop."
You also talk about sweets. Do these ocassional treats and lollipops have to be given when you are not there, when you are instructing others to give to just two children?
I think troll

AbbeyA · 03/09/2008 18:46

I don't believe sweets have any place in schools or nurseries unless they are given out at the end of the day by a birthday child to take home.

AbbeyA · 03/09/2008 18:47

Having got drawn in, I think you are right-it has to be a troll.

Boyswillbeboys · 03/09/2008 18:51

Lollipops are the worst kind of sweet anyway, apart from the dangers already mentioned, my DS1 choked on a lollipop when he was about 3, the whole sweet came off the stick in one go and got stuck in his throat. DH had to do the emergency smack on the back procedure, good thing he was there too as I don't think I'd have been able to do it - it shot out of his mouth and half way across the room!

(I should point out that the lollipop was given to him by someone else and I stupidly let him have it. He's six now but they are still banned from our household!)

mummytoasweetypie · 03/09/2008 18:53

Nope, its for real. C&P'd from 'elsewhere' though - I know thats very bad netiquette, but I couldn't believe the amount of people agreeing that the nursery were in the wrong and felt the need to get an MN opinion to reassure me that I am not alone in thinking this person is bonkers.

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Califrau · 03/09/2008 18:56

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desperatehousewifetoo · 03/09/2008 18:57

Ooh, where were they agreeing the nursery was in the wrong?

Do tell..

Feenie · 03/09/2008 19:00

Oooooh, where's it from, then?

Twiglett · 03/09/2008 19:05

mwahahahahaaaa netmums

StarlightMcKenzie · 03/09/2008 19:05

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mummytoasweetypie · 03/09/2008 19:06

Oh Twiglett however did you guess???

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Twiglett · 03/09/2008 19:09

I googled the first sentence in quotation marks and up it popped

I actually think that they're not out of order, they're talking about the communication aspect, MNers are focusing on the lollipop .. both valid responses although MNs more viperish

belgo · 03/09/2008 19:10

'MNs more viperish'

now there's a surprise! Clever Twiglett.

StarlightMcKenzie · 03/09/2008 19:10

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WigWamBam · 03/09/2008 19:24

The most interesting post on that thread is the one which says

"if i see a post that i dont agree with and cant give any useful information for then i dont reply quite simple really"

So if you don't agree, don't reply. It's no wonder they find MN so confrontational ...

Overmydeadbody · 03/09/2008 19:27

they are a differnet breed entirely, those NMers

SheikYerbouti · 03/09/2008 19:33

FOR CRYING OUT LOUD PEOPLE

lolololol

SheikYerbouti · 03/09/2008 19:34

On MN that would bve

SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU BIG BUNCH OF COCKWARTS

mummytoasweetypie · 03/09/2008 19:36

'Support not debate' or somesuch, they say.

Obv the OP needs some hand holding to get over the outrage that sometimes places have Rules.

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mummytoasweetypie · 03/09/2008 19:36

Sheik - very viperish, that!

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SoupDragon · 03/09/2008 19:38

You are the OP!