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To be miffed at not going to a music festival when I'm not that gone on the artists with a guy I'm not that gone on either?

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 00:57

I maybe should have posted this in Relationships or chat but hey ho here goes.

I've been seeing a guy for over two months, we both agreed that as both of us was carrying some previous relationship baggage that we would not be too serious but not by any means be just fu*k buddies either.

Anyway, about five weeks ago he mentioned that he might go to this festival, a weekend thing and would I be interested if he could get tickets. I said yes definatly if I could arrange childcare.

Two weeks ago over at his I saw two tickets for said festival, I said "Oh you have tickets" he said "Actually I'm going to sell them on e bay" I was a bit but said nothing.

It was eating away at me but when I saw the line up for it I wasn't too keen and my ds is due back in school on Monday so I would have been shattred anyway.

So today he phones and says a friend of his is really down and he's decided to bring him to this festival. I didn't particularly want to go to it so why am I so ?

I just feel like I'm being strung along. I'm not even that into him but I do have huge trust issues with men anyway and I'm feeling I'm being lied to and it's turning me off him.

I think I'm on principal that he had asked me fist if I was interested in going, said he was selling the tickets and today just vey casually announces that he's going with this other mate.

Arghhhhhhhhhhh! Will someone please shed some light on this for me before my head explodes.

TIA

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BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:05

mammy, walk away.
if he chases you, all well and good.
if he doesnt, you know youve done the right thing.
id shag ye and be nicer to you, if that helps

anniemac · 30/08/2008 01:09

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:10

Were carrying not was carrying.

Er thanks for the feedback Bloodysmartarse, it was all good till the last bit.

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:14

I think your right anniemac. I'm 41 next Thursday. I don't want happy ever after but jeez someone honest and some romance.

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VinegarTits · 30/08/2008 01:14

Id be miffed too tbh, why didnt he just tell you he was going with the mate istead of you, in the first place, the ebay story sounds like a blag if you ask me, men are such tossers, i wouldnt bother contacting him again if it were me.

BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:14

[smirk]
sorry!
just trying to say i think youre cool, and you can do better.

VinegarTits · 30/08/2008 01:16

Blimey, my grammar and spelling are bad when i have had a few

BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:17

mine are anyway

Joolyjoolyjoo · 30/08/2008 01:17

I'd be a bit mad, I think. HE mentioned the festival, and you agreed, but HE didn't discuss selling / giving away one of the tickets with you. Did he know you weren;t keen on the line up? Even so, a music festival is more than the line up, isn't it? I think it sounds like things are a bit TOO casual, iyswim

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:17

SorryBloodysmartarse, I'm just hyper sensitive. Ah feck, is it too late to join a nunnery?

Yes Vinegartits, think it's gonna be a case of another one bites the dust.

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:20

No Joolyjoolyjoo, I didn't say anything about not liking the line up. BTW thanks evryone for your replies, it feels better putting it out there as opposed to it swimming round in my head.

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BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:20

yes it is too late to join a nunnery
and you wouldnt be happy if you did.
being oversensitive is ok too. its allowed when youve had your feelings somewhat kneaded.
xx

anniemac · 30/08/2008 01:22

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BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:24

s'ok to feel the way you do; just dont let him see it.
brush him off.
you are worth more and you know it.

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:24

Ok, so how do I meet someone special? Ok, that's a whole different days work.
Back to the drawing board...........again.

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BloodySmartarse · 30/08/2008 01:26

lol

by not lookin of course

did you think it was easy??

Joolyjoolyjoo · 30/08/2008 01:28

Ach, the drawing board is a good place to be!! All that opportunity and no baggage! It is true, men are like buses- they come along all at once- enjoy!

anniemac · 30/08/2008 01:29

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:29

No but when I look at the amount of women that are either married or in long term relationships I start to think will it ever happen for me? Would I want it if it appeared? Is there a happy medium? Oh fu*k I feel like Carrie from SATC typing one of her columns now.

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anniemac · 30/08/2008 01:33

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:33

Anyway, I won't solve it tonight/this morning but thanks for listening. It sounds a bit of a cliche but it really does help to not feel so alone in this.

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:35

Oh no anniemac, trust me, been there done that, printed the ffin t shirt re crap relationships! I'm never going that route again but having said that who am I kiddin I'm just having mini crap ones now, albeit two month ones.

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anniemac · 30/08/2008 01:36

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Mhamai · 30/08/2008 01:38

True true, glass half full as opposed to half empty. You talk sense anniemac.

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