To be miffed at not going to a music festival when I'm not that gone on the artists with a guy I'm not that gone on either?

[Mhamai]

I maybe should have posted this in Relationships or chat but hey ho here goes.

I've been seeing a guy for over two months, we both agreed that as both of us was carrying some previous relationship baggage that we would not be too serious but not by any means be just fu*k buddies either.

Anyway, about five weeks ago he mentioned that he might go to this festival, a weekend thing and would I be interested if he could get tickets. I said yes definatly if I could arrange childcare.

Two weeks ago over at his I saw two tickets for said festival, I said "Oh you have tickets" he said "Actually I'm going to sell them on e bay" I was a bit but said nothing.

It was eating away at me but when I saw the line up for it I wasn't too keen and my ds is due back in school on Monday so I would have been shattred anyway.

So today he phones and says a friend of his is really down and he's decided to bring him to this festival. I didn't particularly want to go to it so why am I so ?

I just feel like I'm being strung along. I'm not even that into him but I do have huge trust issues with men anyway and I'm feeling I'm being lied to and it's turning me off him.

I think I'm on principal that he had asked me fist if I was interested in going, said he was selling the tickets and today just vey casually announces that he's going with this other mate.

Arghhhhhhhhhhh! Will someone please shed some light on this for me before my head explodes.

TIA

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

But remember, married/ long term relationships doesn't necessarily mean set for life- things happen. I was in a long-term relationship with a guy for almost 7 years, then had a fabulous year of being single knowing that I wouldn't give up this freedom for anyone other than someone special, met DH and were married 2yrs later. When I met DH I was "dating" a few other guys, and I didn't honestly think DH and I were "it", but there you go. Try to enjoy the thrill of meeting new people- I think eventually for a lot of people it does happen, although I do still have some friends who seem happily single. I lawys felt I would be happy if someone could tell me "yeah, in XX years time you'll meet someone special, until then- party on!" But sadly (unless you know mystic Meg!) that's not altogether possible!

[Mhamai]

anniemac thanks. I scrub up ok but if another bloke tells me he's looking for no strings I think I'll scream. I'm a single mum so don't get a chance to go out loads but surely there is still such thing as normal dating as opposed to guys just wanting to string/screw you along?

[Mhamai]

I really don't deserve you lovely ladies with your wise words at this late hour. You are spot on and yes Joolyjoolyjoo I agree with you re not knowing. Ive only been with two guys I thought were for keeps, one for 9 years, one for 3, that finished in 97 ad since then it's just been meh with a few yahoo but nothing lasting.

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

I imagine it is far harder when you have kids- you just can't really DO blokes looking for "n/s" because you DO have strings!! But I guess it comes down to the whole lots-of-frogs-before-you-meet-your-prince thing. One of my friends who is a single mum seems to have been pretty successful in the whole internet dating scene- she's met a couple of guys, the first she wasn't mad on, but the most recent is going really well- worth a try?

[Mhamai]

That's just it anniemac, knowing the diffeence. More than anything I want someone to respect me but I fear I'm too much of a giver and end up being taken advantage of, it's a bloody minefield out there, anyway thanks so so much for letting me get this off my chest, my beautiful dd 22 is away working abroad and I'd usually have her to confide in chat with. So thanks again. Think I'll hit the hay and just be happy that I have myslef and two lovely dc.

Ps
If/when I do meet someone special you will be the first to know. Nite nite x

[Mhamai]

Sorry Joolyjoolyjoo, I should have added you to the list but I though it was just anniemac left on the thread. Oh God, why don't you lovely women live near me? Think I'm going to finish with this guy, leave dating alone for a few months and perhaps try the internet thing around November. Or who knows? I might bump into the man of my dreams in the frozen food aisle in Tescos?
Nite nite x

[Joolyjoolyjoo]

Goodnite!

[Mhamai]

Oh anniemac, I'm really bad at uploading pics but as soon as I can I'm going to get a friend help me upload loads more. She really is beautiful inside and out. I know I said I was going to bed but I cant go without posting this. She only came back into contact with her dad six months before he took his life.

That young woman has been through so much and yet she is one of the bravest most beautiful and dignified women I have had the privelege to know. I am so proud of her.

[Mhamai]

Goodnight Joolyjoolyjoo and anniemac, ah yes the Wild west! I sound like a broken record but really thank you for chatting and hope to chat with you both againat some stage. The load feels a lot lighter.
Nite nite x

[Mhamai]

Agree with you one hundred per cent on that one anniemac! Bloody mammy's boys

[Mhamai]

Lewisfan fwiw I don't think we have spoken much but I have seen you about on the threads and you come across as a lovely intelligent woman. I'm not in a great place myself but sometimes it's amazing what other people see.

[Mhamai]

Doh! posted on the wrong thread.