To breast feed a friends baby if she was busy?

[narkymum]

just read a piece about it in closer. There is a programe about it on 9th sept c4 10pm.

thumbwitch, thank you for the link. A very important charity and cause. I'm subscribing and have thoughts for suggestions, so thanks.
Anyone who thinks it's 'disgusting' to provide milk for babies other than their own should see the website to realise how crucial it can be.
Tinkerbelle, as a new mum why not believe what (very lovely) midwives say? Looking at the website the bank is over 60 miles away, perhaps they thought that too far for a new mum, if the bank provides no collection facility for that distance? As for after the stillbirth, I'm not going to go into how emotional and upsetting the whole experience is, but to hear you dismiss not researching as a cop out is insulting.
There are organisations I contacted at the time to ask about how to deal with the milk supply, who I now may contact to see if they'd consider suggesting donation to other women in the same situation. To feel you could help others when you couldn't help yourself can be of comfort.

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I'm pleased to know that I am considered a sacred cow.......

threestars, I read tink's post as the midwives not researching, not you - I'm sure she has every sympathy for you having gone through a stillbirth.

Breastmilk discriminaton. Now I have heard it all. Why is one womans milk better or worse than another womans?

Considering the amount of drunken men, slobbering on your boobs, bits of kebab between their teeth, why is letting another baby feed on them even an issue?

Speak for yourself love

Ah, a return to the wet nurse. Sounds freakishly unnatural and needy to me. Autre temps, autre moeurs

Now way! It is wrong and its the mother who needs to be doing all the feeding.

Why is it wrong?

Actually - dont bother. I already know that you'll be ill-informed, probably bigotted and I'll be disagreeing with you

seems to me its all a matter of personal choice, whatever you're happy with is all that matters.

I rather foolishly got involved in a discussion the other day about mothers breastfeeding to deliberately exclude family members from getting involved in the feeding process, (lots of talk about the bonding process and keeping interfering family members out of the feefing loop so to speak) presumably those who thought that was okay would not be happy with wet nurse scenario?

As an aside when you (like me) exclude bf debates from your hit list its rather galling to find them all often in the AIBU topic!

If you see me post here again you have my permission to chuck a can of SMA directly at my head

Thank you Habbibu I was talking about the MW's who obviously are very ill informed. Milk banks do do collection service, I'm not sure how it works living a mile away from one. There are only 5 banks (IIRC) in the country so they would be terribly under supplied as would hospitals if they didn't do a collection and delivery service.

I'm really upset that you think I am having a go. The 28th is my daughter's 3rd birthday and the 29th is her "angelversary". I know exactly how emotional and upsetting it is.

I'm actually quite passionate about the under education in HCP's and the failure towards mothers in breastfeeding issues.

And now, having had a bad weekend as I always do when September comes, I'm going to move away from this conversation.